There are some things we carry for so long that we no longer notice how heavy they have become.
When I saw today’s prompt, “Cut the Cord,” I did not think about scissors or ropes first. I thought about the invisible things I have been trying to separate myself from quietly over time.
For a long period, I used to make certain decisions based on what people around me considered acceptable. Not because I was weak or confused, but because I wanted peace with everyone. I wanted to avoid disappointing people. But somewhere along the line, I realized that constantly living for approval can slowly disconnect you from yourself.
Even recently, I noticed it again in small moments. I spend a lot of time studying, reading, and writing. Sometimes people look surprised because they believe graduation should mean the end of serious reading. A young girl from our compound once entered my room, saw books scattered around, and asked if I was still going to school. I smiled, but that moment stayed with me. Another older woman had asked me something similar months ago.
At first, those comments made me question myself a little. I wondered if I was doing too much or if I should slow down so people would understand me better. But I have come to realize that growth sometimes requires cutting the cord from other people’s expectations.
The truth is, I genuinely love learning. I love sitting with books, researching ideas, and improving myself quietly even when nobody notices it. That part of me is real, and I do not want to abandon it just because it looks unusual to someone else.
Cutting the cord does not always mean leaving people behind. Sometimes it simply means refusing to let outside opinions control your direction anymore.
I am still learning how to do that fully.
Still learning how to trust my own path without constantly explaining it.
Still learning how to move forward without needing everybody to understand why.
And maybe that is part of becoming stronger.