This topic came about after reading one of my viewer’s comments … and because I thought it’s something important for everyone to know.
Whether you’re going to Thailand, Vietnam – whatever country it might be – you for sure want to have a good experience.
Alright, let’s get right into it. By the way, this isn’t to expose this viewer but rather to give you my take on it so you’ll have a better experience next time.
What went wrong here?
I can’t tell for sure, but looks like a combination of: totally wrong location & expectations.
Let’s talk about expectations first.
When you’re watching one of my videos, do you expect your trip to be exactly the same?
When you’re watching the summary of a soccer (or basketball) game, you know those are the best & most interesting scenes?
Thailand is exciting, fun & amazing … but it can never live up to what you see in the videos. So, in that sense, the videos don’t give a realistic picture.
Realistic Check: There will be frustrations, disappointments and things that go wrong – that’s all fine.
The problem only arises when you have that fairy tale in your head about how it’s supposed to be & then are confronted with reality.
Secondly, he picked the absolute worst place. Nice, regular Thai women – you can find those in Bangkok, but Pattaya isn’t the best hunting ground for that.
There are many working girls (especially in touristy areas), so of course, you’re gonna be confronted with a “business-like mentality“.
After all, it’s all a transaction.
Don’t expect anything more than that. Sure, each girl will be different and some might be cold bitches that just want to get it over with … but how is that different to regular girls?
How can YOU make your trip enjoyable?
1. Bust Your Expectations
This sounds negative, but really means lower them to a realistic level. Videos will always feature the most interesting parts of a night, not the ones that were boring …
Unlike what you might think, the expectations you have play a crucial role in how much you enjoy it. If you have sky-high expectations, I will guarantee you it’s going to be disappointing!
If you come with an open mind just to experience it without expecting anything – you sure will have a blast!
2. Use Common Sense … with Girls
Admittedly, this is sometimes hard, but in most cases you can at least “smell” if she’s just being nice to make a sale. You want a girl that is generally in a good mood, before, during & after the service.
This takes practice & experience; if you’re a first-timer you can’t easily see through girls’ act. Don’t worry – see it as a learning experience.
Are they happy to see me or the potential $$$?
Nonetheless, if you sense that something is fishy, just move on. This might be hard if you’re a first timer & just walking away from a girl can be difficult – do it anyway.
3. Act Like A Customer
Again, this sounds negative, but please hear me out! She’s a working girl, she is there for business & $$$. Don’t expect any freebies or get all romantic just because she’s all touchy and giggling when you say something … it’s part of her job to show affection.
Be straight-forward; if you want to get her contact, do it for the right reasons (repeat customer) – not because you’re hoping to turn this into a relationship or anything of that nature.
4. Your First Trip Doesn’t Count …
… if you didn’t like it. I can totally see how someone would come to Thailand for the first time, get all this attention from working girls … but after the paid service is over, wonder, “What? I thought she liked me?”
You can easily spot a Thailand veteran, an experienced mongerer – he’ll be nice & friendly to working girls, but he will certainly NOT be too excited by the girls’ affection. He knows what’s up.
But, as a newbie, you need to learn those lessons first.
Hey, I had totally disillusioned expectations during my first trip. Friends had told me about Thailand & how women there like Westerners, so I thought all I need to do is show up & women will all be over me.
… yeah, right.
I saw what it was really like & only started to enjoy Thailand on my next trip a few months later. I did the exact same thing, first trip was to Pattaya (dislike), then to Bangkok (like) … and when I went back to Pattaya a year later, I started to enjoy it too.
Pattaya isn’t Thailand & Bangkok is radically different.
If you’re the guy that wrote that comment – this would be my recommendation for you: try Bangkok, Chiang Mai or any city other than Pattaya next time and you’ll have a totally different experience with Thailand & Thai ladies!
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