My client, a smart, mature man, in a casual conversation, told me that men agreed to give love to the woman to get sex. With his wonderfully raised eyebrows and the question, is this his opinion, he replied that it was a common belief among men. I also found an interesting article from an authoritative edition titled: "Women pursue bindings, just as men are pursuing sex." I also remembered all the posts with the same chanting that flooded us from the nets, and so I took the pen.
Is it true that women are pursuing commitment, and men sex? Obviously yes. Apparently, without even feeling, we've brought things up here. May the reasoning in all such publications be true, but whether the side is looking in the right direction. Because if our point of departure is wrong, all postulates and mental constructions that originate from our erroneous location will also be wrong.
Obviously, people do not get their intimacy today. Especially young people are affected. I work with people and have observations. And although advice on the exact words, actions, attitudes and, even though porn is at the peak of the world, somewhere is not getting any more. Therefore, it is time to pay attention, not to techniques, poses and studied models, but to pay attention to the direction. Let's see if it does not happen that we stick very closely to the technology of right walking, but we do not get it because we are going in the opposite direction.
Let's look at this in detail. What does connection mean? I will strive for the other and he towards me. But if my striving is my own and his striving is he himself, will he be in touch? Men like sex ?! Interestingly how such parasitic models have settled so steadily and invariably in the mass consciousness that they are not even questioned, but that theories, scientific justifications, and psychological techniques are built to teach people how to keep up with the original mistake. If men want sex, looking for sex, seeking sex, this is basically a wrong purpose. And the writers who took this wrong purpose as a basis will also be wrong.
If a man believes that his goal is sex, he will use any focus and manipulation to get the woman in, and then pull on himself, and to continue to realize that goal. Puts the tentacle to the woman, takes her / in the case of sex / and draws to herself. The woman does not have anything else but to do the same, except by trying. It also has a purpose that is initially erroneous, and in turn manipulates the man with sex to bind him by dropping the tentacles, getting engaged and pulling to himself.
Where's the connection? There is no such thing. It is sooner - I will allow you to parasite me if you let me parasitize you.
Obviously, why men do not want to be bound. There is another concept, also commonplace, that in the cohabitation the desire for sex in the woman is diminishing. Of course, it diminishes, not because it is natural, but because of the parasitic relationships created. But when both men and women have taken the wrong purpose as their starting point, it is not possible for another result.
It follows that, according to the established and ubiquitously accepted belief, the purpose of the man is sex, and the purpose of the woman is the man. Do you see here the connection with another, also widely discussed topic, about how men grew ever more feminine and women becoming more masculine?
And how is it right? THE PURPOSE OF A MAN SHOULD BE WOMEN, AND THEN THE WOMAN'S PURPOSE WILL BE SEX. And what men now want will become the desire of the woman, because what women want is the desire of the man. When a woman is free of thought, care, responsibility for being, including responsibility for the safety of her future children, then she becomes naturally sexual. Unlike the male, her sexuality is constant and inexhaustible. Do you know a woman who is sexually willing when she is disturbing, uncertain, scared for the future, a male mobilized by responsibility and doubting whether she will have the strength to cope? It is focused on thoughts and actions where the man should be focused. I will continue with the female sexuality for clarity. The woman is excited by the man, not the action sex. Matrix embed code, which is only for the benefit of men. Because if she was excited by sex as a practice, she would be able to be with anyone capable of performing the technical operation. But she is excited by a certain man, and her sexual readiness is only a side effect of her own sentient sense. To excite the man-person, however, the woman should look up to him because he is above her. If she is forced to look down on earthly material things, to think about survival, commitments and responsibilities in maintaining and arranging the environment - home, careers, children, she no longer sees it and can not be enchanted. She only sees her own plan, according to her habitat. And she starts pursuing commitment, and in order to get paid for sex, she is not so excited about. And he could not, the center of gravity in her was moved into the head because the center of gravity in the man was in his groin.
And how will things go if the man focuses on the woman? It will immediately begin to see what it needs - security, reliability, responsibility, commitment. Then she, free of these cares, will look up and be captivated. And the more he sees it, the more he captivates himself because, as Tewn Mares says in The Secret of Sex - "Oh, the man? Yes, he is indeed a majestic creature! "And her sexuality will flourish naturally because when he sees her needs and flows to her, she will see his needs and flow to him. And it will happen that she will love the man and will also want sex. WHY THE MAN CAN NOT LOVE THE WOMAN TO OBTAIN SEX, AND THE WOMAN LOVES A MAN TO RECEIVE SEX. The woman is the recipient of sex, and the husband is the recipient of love. Love in the sense of energy, information, resource. And looking at this seems more like a connection. Now I want men to try to feel the sound, the vibration of it - the woman loves them and wants them sex. And what is needed? Just to shift their focus of attention from sex and their own spirited needs, move it from themselves and direct it to the woman, not to sex in the woman, but to the woman itself. Should they have to do with their own inner woman for that? It is a must. Should they be mature men, not boys looking for another toy? It is a must.
And in order to beat the men 's words, I will specify that under security and reliability I do not mean boots and houses with 10 bedrooms. Every woman knows how she feels with a man internally committed to her and responsible. Even if there is little in material aspect or in a difficult time, she feels when he is a warrior and knows he will find a way and will cope. This gives her a sense of lightness and selflessness and, as her needs have become his needs, his needs become her needs.
In order not to be one-sided, I will also have to look at the women and mention that there are not only a few women who will receive all this from a man who is mature and respectful, and they will abuse. Women are also not immune to infantilism. At the moment, as a result of continuous bombardment from all over the world with pseudo-scientific discoveries about female sexuality, more and more women are positioned in the male pole, and this leaves them away from the heart center where they should reside and where the source of female power is. Before continuing, I want to clarify that there is a significant difference between the sexual readiness of the loving woman and the neurotic pursuit of sexual satisfaction in women who, just like a man, are focused on the wishes of her mind. The simple answer to the question why these wishes of the mind are exactly sexual is because it is now modern. A real case I'm telling as an anecdote is my girlfriend's visit to a gynecologist. The doctor asks her how often she has sex. My friend says once a week. The question - why, she answers - well, my lover is free one day a week. Then the gynecologist cuts off - once it a bit, you will find a second lover and you will do it twice. While we were all laughing, I remembered the decision, and I said - you had to ask her if you could replace the second lover with a dildo or you must use a very hot dildo. I work with people, I communicate with many people and I know that many women now think they have sexual needs. They feel these sexual needs in their bodies the same way men feel. And there is no other way, because, in a heartless heart center, their energy jumps between the genitals and the head, just as it is for men. When two of this kind make a connection, it flows in the form of rounds between their sex organs and their brains and leads to nothing but mutual exhaustion. And though one has a stick and the other a hole, and though their physiology is mature, as a state of awareness, they are children who play a man and a woman.
I do not want to be reborn in 100 years and find that the hearty women are gone, just as the tantric sexual intercourse is forgotten and disappeared from our everyday life. But I have no formula, no solution to get out of it, already a status quo. For good or for evil, the woman follows the man as the body follows the head. She follows it, even when she thinks she is not following and follows, even when it seems at first sight that he follows her. This is the natural direction of energy movement, matrix set, it happens, whether we see it, understand it, recognize it. In the sexual act, the man's seed enters the woman and is sown for a new life, a new manifestation. There is exactly the same thing in the spiritual plan. The man's intention is sown in the woman's energy, and as soon as enough potential accumulates, it begins to manifest itself. It takes a long time to build up the potential for such a poles turning, so we do not count it. We are in a split of the process and we do not have a glimpse of the scale. If for many years the intention of the men was - I want sex, but I do not want to be bound, then the harvest of this intention is coming. The woman is like the Earth, she will always give birth to what the man has shown. So it seems to me that the ball of change is again in the field of men. And if the fireplace is in the woman, and the matches with which this fireplace can ignite is the man, I strongly hope in the box to have more sticks.
Much love - Krisii
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