We learn that when we grow up, we have to take responsibility for ourselves. But we live in a chain of relationships in which we have no freedom to grow up.
We think we ought to have control over the alien life. Hardly, on our shoulders stands the fate of all and we provide their prosperity. Without our direction, they would not do it, and here is the problem - why are we mistaken for our sense of direction?
We mistakenly perceive that we must make our loved ones happy that we help them when we worry about them that our love is the strongest and most real. We grab their lives and let ours go, and in return, they have to be obliged to the victim by abandoning ourselves in the same way so that they can pay us back. But, of course, we do all this from love, not from selfishness.
It is even considered that there is a period in which the lives of your children, your family, your loved ones become more important than your own. Then you have to forget that you also live and concentrate on the others, thus inevitably taking away part of their freedom.
People act against our nature and think that makes us smarter. Although she asks us to take care of ourselves, we expect someone else to do this for us, and in return, we will return the gesture. But here is the absurd - everyone has a different need and understanding of love and attention and, naturally, what we give, seldom coincides with the demands of the opposite.
We deprive ourselves of the most effective and rich source of a happy life - and that's what we are - to get involved in complicated and unhealthy networks of interdependence. This reciprocity deprives us of the opportunity to realize that you alone can give yourself what you really need.
And we do not deprive ourselves only, and the other - the one we love. We stifle him with his own understanding of how to achieve success, how he really loves, how he experiences failure and closes his eyes for his own instincts and intuition.
Nobody's life does not end at a certain age and no one's life starts at a certain age. Each of us brings happiness, love, and attention to ourselves, so remember - it's always up to you and it will only depend on you how satisfied you are with your reality!
Much love - Krisii
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