As a mom, you might get used to dealing with your own pain. You might learn to push through, to put on a brave face, and just keep going. But when it comes to your kids, it’s a whole different kind of hurt. Watching the kids get hurt, or worse, knowing they are being treated unfairly, is something no parent is ever ready for.
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What makes it even harder is when the pain comes from family. The people who are supposed to love you, support you, and cheer this kids on are the ones that sometimes they do the opposite. They criticize, dismiss, or, even worse, play favorites. And let me tell you, favoritism among grandkids? That is like pouring salt on a wound that is already raw.
Kids notice everything. They feel when one is picked over another, when one gets more praise, more attention, or more affection. And as a mom, watching that happen to your children? It’s heartbreaking. Any mother will want to protect their kids from it, shield them from the unfairness, but there is only so much you can do. And still, you have to hold it together, for them, for yourself, because the last thing you want is for them to feel they are not enough.
It’s exhausting, honestly. Feeling hurt yourself while trying to be their safe space, their cheerleader, their comfort when the people who should be loving them unconditionally are causing pain instead. It’s a kind of loneliness that sneaks up on a mother. This makes me question why adults, especially family, can’t just be fair, kind, and supportive. But even with all that, keeping going is always the option. Because being a mom means fighting for your kids, even when it’s messy, unfair, or just plain hard.
And seriously the thing is it matters. The love you show, the reassurance you give, the way you make your children feel seen and valued,none of that is wasted. They notice, even if the world around them sometimes doesn’t and no one will give them that except a mother. You might not be able to control everyone else, but you can control how your kids see themselves. And that makes all the difference.
Being a mom in these situations is painful. It’s frustrating, heartbreaking, and tiring. But it’s also a reminder that our love can be the strongest shield they will ever know, and that has worth every moment of the struggle.
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