Have You Heard Of Post Sex Depression?
Don't google it. I'll explain 😉
An escort once told me about the struggles she faced when she was just starting to request or accept money for being with men.
"I feel sad and cheap for days," she said.
"Each time I have sex with someone else other than my boyfriend, I feel that angels and karma took note of it and that my already fucked up chance of having a happy life is now really fucked up."_
Post Coital Tristesse is one of the most interesting phrase I learnt last year. According to dictionaries, it's a feeling of sadness, anxiety, melancholy, agitation etc, after sex.
Medical research says both men and women experience PCT and they have their hormones to blame. The hormone in question is prolactin. Women have the hormone for milk production, but men have it as well. After orgasm, the body creates prolactin in order to counteract the release of dopamine, which is the hormone responsible for sexual arousal. So, prolactin is to blame for those feelings of depression.
Well, as for me, this whole thing is psychological.
We all have our ego, which is the personality with which we relate with other people. We can also have alter ego which protects our ego from external control or dominance. The alter ego is also responsible for how strong our ego, esteem, pride, confidence and selflove can be.
When you have a sweaty, meaningless sex with the wrong person, you must struggle with your esteem afterwards. You feel you have betrayed yourself and let your ego down. That's also why body counts sound so bad.
It's worse and ironic for girls because they will suffer more sadness, regret or mood swings if they ever enjoyed any part of sex with the wrong guy. That's why many girls will fake orgasms and many more won't allow kissing and touching during sex; trying not to reach an orgasm because they aren't in love.
Our subconscious is always protecting us from doing things we might turn out to regret like having meaningless fucks or stupidly falling in love. It's high time we started loving, respecting and listening to ourselves.
