Firstly we must begin by accepting the reality that we will have conflict with our spouse, our friends and loved one.
Conflicts are not a sign that you have married the wrong one or in a relationship with the wrong partner, they simply affirm that they are human.
We all tend to assume that our ideas are the best, we fail to recognize our spouse has the same opinion of their ideas. Their logic will not agree with your logic, and their emotions will not mirror your own.
Our ideas and perception about life are influenced by our history, our values and our personality. And these factors are different for each of us.
Large or small conflicts have a way of destroying an evening, a week, a month, or a lifetime.
On the other hand conflicts have the potential of teaching us how to love, support and encourage each other. This is by far a better road to travel.
In a Relationship either marriage or friendship it is important to note that it is never having it my way, it is rather discovering our way.
Ways to resolve conflicts
Meeting in the Middle.
This approach says you find a meeting place as regards the conflict by agreeing to do a part of what each of you desired while each of you also sacrifices a bit. A common ground is required, something that is similar in both your views that you can work with while you both agree to let go of the other abstracts.
Meeting on your side.
This means after you hear each other's idea and feelings, one of you decide on this occasion, it is best to do what the other has in mind. This is total sacrifice of your original idea, choosing rather to do what your spouse or friend desires and to do it with positive attitude. You are choosing to do it as an a t of love because you care about them and you see how important it is to them.
Meeting latter.
This approach says "At the moment, I'm not able to conscientiously agree with your idea, and i don't see a place to meet in the middle. Can we just agree for the moment, we disagree on this? And we will discuss it again latter and look for a solution. In the meantime we will love each other, enjoy each other, and support each other. This will not be a disruptive factor in our marriage or friendship."
This is a perfect legitimate response to a conflict when, at the moment, you can not find a long term solution. A month from now, things may look different or new possibilities may come to mind so that you can find a compromise with which both of you will feel good.
In one of the three ways, you can resolve your conflict. The key, of course, is creating a friendly atmosphere by listening to each other and affirming each other's perspective rather than accusing each other of illogical thinking.
Steemians i hope you've learnt something from this write-up kindly state your opinions in the comment section i long to have a conversation on this topic and see from your point of view too. Enjoy.