3 phrases that will restore self-love
Some of us often confuse self-love with selfishness, although these are completely different concepts. A person who loves himself takes care of his happiness, and those who love him will be able to understand it.
It is necessary to admit that often our love for ourselves is lost on the flowery paths of life. Sometimes low self-esteem makes us forget who we really are. And we forget that everyone deserves the best, including ourselves.
The roots of this psychological disorder go back to our childhood and our early life experience. It was he who shaped our personality the way we see it today.
As for self-love, it is necessary to constantly remember this feeling and cultivate it. In no case should not let it take its course. This does not mean that the love you currently need to inflate to unimaginable proportions, turning it a bright feeling in pathological narcissism, the narcissism and the selfishness. Not at all.
It is about being diligent, wise and developing your intuition in order to understand exactly where the boundaries of our personality are, which divide our rights from the rights of others.
Our love for ourselves resembles a fragile treasure of glass, requiring careful and delicate care. The more you rub it, the more brilliance, beauty and inspiration it gives you.
At the same time, there are two main aspects that should never be forgotten: never give your treasure into the wrong hands and do not let it break.
What are these three phrases over which you can think?
- "Giving myself what I deserve has nothing to do with selfishness. This is necessary in order to keep the love for yourself.»
Quite a curious situation: today we often hear the phrase stating that"you need to love yourself more if you want to be respected by others".
- When it comes to the matter and we begin to take care of ourselves, the same people begin to reproach us for selfishness, claiming that we have changed for the worse.
- Therefore, it is very important to understand that there is a wide range of shades and halftones between self-love and selfishness. A Mature and harmonious person will never go beyond a healthy love for himself. He is able to control himself and knows his inner world well.
- Unfortunately, society often love to yourself, believe negative feeling, and subjected to condemnation.
- When we say that we do not want to go to a meeting with a person, because we want to spend the evening alone, take a walk and think about our problems, we are considered strange and ill-mannered. People see it as disrespectful to others.
Remember that allowing yourself what you deserve, what you need at the moment, has nothing to do with selfishness.
If a loved one interprets your act as selfishness, then maybe he's not a good friend. True friends and loved ones are always able to understand what we need. They always treat us with empathy and understanding and respect the decisions we make.
2. "I need to set boundaries that protect my dignity, individuality and uniqueness of my personality»
When we walk through life without a protective barrier, filters and walls that can protect us from all that harms us, makes us vulnerable, lowers our self-esteem, we become open to any surprises that fate has prepared for us. But they can be both good and bad.
What to do? Maybe you should be more demanding of the gifts of fate? Perhaps you need to learn to choose? A wise person knows that you can accept all the good and give up the bad.
- This position also has nothing to do with selfishness. This is the first step to mental and emotional health, inner harmony and happiness. All this will directly affect your physical well-being.
So try to set these boundaries and learn to protect yourself from those who fill your life with negativity and emotional blackmail, trying to manipulate you in their own interests…
The quality of your life will increase significantly when you start to set these boundaries.
3. "My love for myself has too high a price, which is impossible to bargain»
Self-love is something more than self-defense, the distinction between one's own and another's, and careful care for the treasure, which we discussed at the beginning of our article.
- This is our dignity, the amazing unique essence of our self, forming our personality. It determines our strength and how we see ourselves. This power is necessary for us to face the challenges, to strive to realize our dreams and to create our own reality in which our personality would feel harmonious.
- To achieve this is not easy. It should be borne in mind that self-love is not static, it is constantly changing and developing. Sometimes it weakens, gets sick or someone tries to take it away from us.
- Sometimes we forget to properly nourish this wonderful feeling. Self-love needs fresh food, new knowledge, acquaintances, goals and experience.
Always remember that the price of your love is very high. Never trust her with someone else's hands, she belongs only to you. Love for yourself will allow you to give others what you feel for yourself: respect, understanding, harmonious relations and peace.