Ecclesiastes 5: 5
5 Better is not to promise than to promise and not to fulfill.
When we are going to commit ourselves to something or someone, we must feel assured that we can fulfill that promise, otherwise it is better not to do it. Why do I write this to you? because sometimes we commit ourselves against our will, or without being very sure of being able to comply, as well as to be well in front of someone or many, without realizing that in the end such a promise could become a burden, a problem , in a conflict and apart from that we become liars before the eyes of God and of people, because God does not like us when we lie, he walks with willing people, with faithful people, with people sure of what he says, people that says yes and really is yes, people who say no and really are not.
Look at the case of marriage, many people give themselves in marriage without being sure that they will be able to fulfill that promise until the end, without being sure that you are committing to the right person, but how to know if we have a crystal ball that of security at the moment that is or is not the right person. This is why we must always have the guidance and direction of the Holy Spirit, but what of those who do not yet know the Holy Spirit at the moment of commitment? aya-yai
Simple, everything that you promise without being sure that you can fulfill, will fail and then your integrity as a person will be damaged before others, and that is precisely what God does not want, that we are unsuccessful in something, that we go wrong or that our integrity is affected, remember that he has thoughts of good and not evil for his children, he always wants us to do well. May we always live in fullness.
So it is better to be sure before committing your word.
2 (1) Do not hurry, neither with your lips nor with your thoughts, to make promises to God, because God is in heaven and you are on earth. Therefore, speak as little as you can, 3 (2) because by much thinking you have nightmares, and by much talk they say nonsense.
4 (3) When you make a promise to God, do not delay in fulfilling it, because he does not like fools. Do what you promise,
5 (4) it is better not to promise, than to promise and not to comply.
6 (5) Do not let your lips cause you to sin, and then say to the envoy of God that you did it by mistake. Why make God angry for what you say and destroy what you have done? 7 (6) Therefore, in the midst of so many nightmares and so many words and meaningless things, you must show reverence towards God.