1st step is "Self Love" Love who you are..love yourself even if nobody else does because if you dont love yourself you will look for love in things and in people..they can only make you feel the love thats already inside of you..all love starts inside of you.
2nd step is "Dont care about what others think of you" You are the only one who knows who you truly are and if you dont know who you are then someone else can tell you who they think you are and you might believe them because you dont know who you are..so the way to just avoid all of it is..dont let anyone's opinion of you effect who you are or how you feel..just smile, laugh live and enjoy being you
3rd step is "Dont forget to look in the mirror"
Look at your good traits and look at your bad traits dont forget to realize that if you want to you can change but dont forget to humble yourself because you could also be wrong..maybe you set a goal for yourself and you didnt stick to it..then its up to you to call yourself out..you have to take responsibility's for your behaviors..your thoughts..what you watch and listen to and maybe you want to change but you dont know where to start..you start by looking in the mirror because then you might actually see
4th step is "Stop Blaming Others" You are the only reason your happy or not, You are the only reason your life goes good or your life goes bad you cant blame your mom or your dad for the way your life is now if you dont live with them..the past was the past.. blaming it on the past wont fix the present or the future..you cant blame others for your mistakes.. you blame yourself.
5th step is.."Self Discipline" If no one is around to call you out..you have to learn how to call yourself out..if you have a goal you have to have enough discipline to d.. stick to it..nobody is going to care that you didnt do your goals but you..self discipline is very important because maybe your watching too much Netflix..maybe your on social media all day instead of doing what you need to do..if you say your going to do something it takes self discipline to actually follow threw.