This particular weekend keeps coming to my mind and I can but write about it. I do a lot of things, one of which is being a chef/caterer, and I work for various caterers, event planners and all. But then, it's been a while since I went for any of those works, reason being that I lost interest in the whole thing when I had an experience with one of the women I work for.
So, I have always seen it happening, the way she talks to her workers and all, including aged people, people who are way older than she is. I have been keeping my cool, and like she always says, I'm gentle. But with calmness, I hate disrespect. One of those weekends we were at work cooking, and making sure things are set before the commencement of the wedding program. That was how she started raining curse words on this older woman, even if the woman has done something bad and all, you don't need to start using curse words on her, one of this woman's daughter was there as well, and I saw how she felt, she just couldn't speak up for her mum.
I would have talked at that instant, but I had a rethink and wouldn't want the matter to drag. So, later when she(our boss) was alone, I walked up to her, greeted her and told her politely how what she did was wrong. Well, she just eyed me and told me to face what I came for.
It was that experience that made me know we won't last, I can't work for long with such a person. So,b what made me actually stopped working for her and for others generally was what happened at another event on a weekend. What happened is just too small to get talked down on that much, she asked me to carry something, and I went to clear the place I'm to put the stuff first, after I was done, I went to call someone that can help, since I alone cannot carry the package. This woman returned to her car, found out I'm just about to carry it with the person I went to call for help and began to shout and talk.
They were not small talks, very hurting ones. Seh talked down on me, cursed me, shouted, yelled and said all sort of things. I was pained. Even though everyone around was trying to calm her down and those that were there were even trying to do the explanations for me that I wasn't playing or wasting time, I was actually doing what she requested, she didn't listen.
I almost lost my cool, like ... I almost acted up too. I didn't tell her sorry like some asked me to, I haven't done anything, and I don't deserve what she's doing to me, none of us working for her deserves the kind of treatment she gives to us. The fact that we are working for you does not make us less of a human, we have dignity, and we deserve some respect too.
I told her its my last time working for her, but I guess she thought it was a joke. Har son reached out to me the following weekend and the next after that, and I keep telling them I'm done. That was how I stopped going for any event work. I stayed away, even in days when I know I'm broke and needed money, I still tell them no.
Not long ago, I resume working. Yea, but not with that woman. I've met her at two different events after I stopped working for her. I remember her son calling me for this last work we did and I told him I mean it when I said I can no longer work for them, know the most funniest part... We met that weekend at an event. She was the chef for the groom side while I was working with the chef for the brides side 😀😀😀.
I'm now carefully choosing who and who I will work with, and I've settled for those that know how to treat others well. And the food we cooked, common... It didn't just look beautiful, it tasted same.
That weekend is one to be remembered. Our eyes kept meeting at the event, and me I didn't even flinch. My boss is treating me well, you on your part can keep treating your workers the way you like, and you will find them leaving/quitting one after the other....just like I did.
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