There's a popular saying in this part of the world that love is blind. Honestly, I don't know the philosopher behind this saying or the relationship guru that postulated it as a fact. But unfortunately, it's becoming a national anthem sung by ignorant singles.
Many people who knew nothing about love would just swallow this phrase hook, line and sinker. And when they get into marriage, their eyes would be open to lots of things they were blind to.
How can you fall in love at first sight or say love is blind when you no next to nothing about the person - past, dreams, shortcomings, pursuit and you're yet to agree on the major issues of life?
Know this, love cannot be blind to...
Character
No matter how much you're intoxicated by love, a bad character will be repulsive and can never be tolerated. Do not think love would make someone with a bad character change. They can only pretend for a while but not forever.
If he raises his voice at you or bangs the table when he's angry, be sure that in marriage, it'll graduate to verbal insult and domestic violence.
When she's keeping things as a secret from you, just know that you'd be in for surprises when you enter into the marriage on the premise that love is blind.
Purpose
Love cannot be blind to what you are to do in his life or what she is to do in your life. If you don't know God's purpose for your lives, your marriage will be like every other marriages - sex, make babies, live together as husband and wife, become parents and then grandparents. No impact in the society.
If he doesn't, you'll have no role to play in his life. And if you as a lady doesn't know where you fit-in in his life, he'll abuse your role in his life
- Roles and Obligations
Husbands and wives have their different roles and obligations to play in the making of a successful marriage. Love cannot be blind to this fact.
It's not the duty of the woman to lead the family to pray, make important decisions, take the largest part in the financial administration of the marriage. No, women weren't made to be breadwinner. If by situation it happens, the man needs to man up and own up to his responsibilities.
But boys in men's appearance will sit back and push the whole financial weight of the relationship on the woman. So my dear, if this is the kind of man you perceive you're with, don't let your love be blind.
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Ladies, if you're the only one adding to the table without him making signs or efforts to support or show willingness to make progress, you'll be the husband of the family.
More so, it is not the primary role of a man to make meals or build the home; it's a wise woman's obligation. If you discover that she doesn't have what it takes to build the home, look before you leap because love won't do it in marriage.
That it worked for others doesn't mean it'll work for you. It's better to do what is right than to do what is wrong that others are doing.
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Do you believe love is blind? Don't let the aforementioned points ruin it in marriage .