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Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?
So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Matthew 19:3-6[NIV].
Certain things we used to hear about outside the church has gradually crept in to the church of God. This has called for the purpose of marriage security.
God is interested in seeing us securing our marriages. When talking about marriage security, it doesn't mean the absence of misunderstanding, but the use of God's word to overcome such barriers. Why marriage should be secured is the fact the one who instituted the course is interested in the welfare of couples.
Things that will help us maintain marriage security:
(1). Divine imperative;
“Now I commit you to God and to the word of his grace, which can build you up and give you an inheritance among all those who are sanctified. Acts 20:32[NIV].
When talking about something being imperative, we mean that which must be done, it is obligated. There's nothing more in this life that can build marriage than the words of grace of God. He is a strong builder, who can fence around in order to prevent any breaking in by external forces.
When making God and the word of His grace to build you, loving your partner will not be a problem or challenge. When God is involved in your marriage, He'll be the one superintending your life, seeing you and whatever you have.
(2). Killing the killer of Marriage:
This is selfishness. Every couple must be up and doing in making sure that the killer of marriage is totally destroyed. This is a very powerful tool in the hand of the devil, that makes you think about only yourself. You must think about your spouse. Selfishness produces pride and antagonism, setting in every other evil thought.
(3). Emotional Intelligence:
Marriage has to do greatly with emotions. You must have emotional intelligence. Because lack of this will make your spouse to be nonchalant and lackadaisical about performing his/her conjugal rights. There must be that understanding and openness to tell when your husband's or wife's face is not straight, then you can be able to offer solutions to any kind of problem or challenge he or she may face at that moment. Be open and be transparent to each other. At this point of openness, whenever the devil tend to appear in order to cause destruction, you will always overcome.
(4). Avoid Bitterness:
You must love each other and never attempt to hold grudge against each other.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Hebrews 13:4[NIV].
Just like God will judge every other acts of men, marriage will also be judged. As such, let your marriage have a relationship with God, that He may put His mark on you.