<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></title><description><![CDATA[RSS Feed]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link><image><url>http://direct.ecency.com/logo512.png</url><title>RSS Feed</title><link>http://direct.ecency.com</link></image><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 15 Apr 2026 05:20:04 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="http://direct.ecency.com/@meholstein/rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[What Does It Mean To Be Productive?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Productivity is a word we all use a lot, but don’t have clear definition around. We know we all want to be more ‘productive.’ There are productivity apps and productivity tools. But do we mean productive]]></description><link>http://direct.ecency.com/productivity/@meholstein/what-does-it-mean-to-be-productive</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://direct.ecency.com/productivity/@meholstein/what-does-it-mean-to-be-productive</guid><category><![CDATA[productivity]]></category><dc:creator><![CDATA[meholstein]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 27 Dec 2018 20:05:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Wearing Revealing Clothing Isn’t ‘Asserting Your Freedom.' You’re Just Playing Into Misogynist’s Hands.]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’m a feminist who is against crop-tops and revealing clothing (and I’m writing this as someone who loves crop tops). 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