Los cuidados en la tercera edad es una manera de entrar en el tema de como enfrentar y asumir el cuido de la madre ya llegando a los 89 años. Para la gran mayorìa es una bendiciòn tener a nuestras madres con una, realizando el papel de protectora asì como en un tiempo lo hicieron con nosotros los hijos, a veces tiende a tildarse de malos hijos a aquellos que no estàn cerca de esta atenciòn.

Tiende a decirse que bueno, tienes a tù madre contigo, que bendiciòn y felicidad. Llegar a esta edad es muy satisfactorio a pesar de todas las situaciones de salud que se a atravesado y controlado. Cuando hablamos de cuido solo se piensa en eso: comer, aseo personal, ingesta de medicinas a la hora que està medicado.

Pues, este cuido va màs allà de solo lo fìsico, como mantener el equilibrio la persona que està a cargo o cuidador como se le refiere; dentro de todo esto puedo decir: escuchar sus historias, tantas veces las repita, escuchar cada dìa algo distinto de lo que se siente, a pesar de tomar sus medicamentos. Ir de compras asì como digo tour de farmacias como hacemos ahora, buscando esa medicina que no es fàcil encontrar.

A veces, escucharla decir: espera que llegas a esta edad, es la actitud que no me gustarìa tomar cuando sean mis hijos quienes se hagan cargo de mi. La respuesta es decirle hay que agradecer que Dios le permite estar en esta edad con su mente clarita y sus ideas que tiene...con movilidad y ganas de seguir viviendo, una mente que por dècadas organizaba todo y ahora los hijos somos quienes le organizamos a ella.

Para el cuidador es una tarea que quienes estàn viendo de fuera lo consideran sencillo, hay tanto incluìdo que no se ve pero viene con el paquete incluìdo. Esa parte de las emociones, esos pensamientos, esa forma de ver la vida me ha llevado a adentrarme màs en ese conocimiento del ser en su mundo interno. Esa forma de ver la vida y que su cuidadora tiene otra forma de mirarla, esos choques de generaciones que gracias al conocimiento se han ido acoplando, voy entendiendo, asimilando, aplicando esa gran cantidad de teorìas que hay sòlo que vivirlas para poder dar el testimonio, acompañando a otros.

Hoy en vìsperas de su 89 años de vida es ese orgullo de organizar su festejo asì sea para dos o tres personas, me dijo hace unos dìas ¿para què? le respondo hay que celebrar la vida, su vida, con sus bajas y altas que ha atravesado desde su nacimiento hasta hoy, lo valiente que ha sido al enfrentar todo lo que enfrentò con hijos pequeños y un esposo que estaba al pendiente de lo que ocurrìa. A veces, eso hace que uno piense: ¿Dios me permitirà vivir tantos años?.

Agradezco mucho esta reflexiòn que hago, llegò a pasar a mis cuidados en un momento justo para mi, digo justo porque considero que tengo herramientas para llevar este cuido que para muchos consideran que solo es alimentaciòn, medicinas y aseo. Ese cuido va màs allà, cuando dice: sàca comida de mi plato, no quiero nada ahorita, en otras casas no sè como serà eso. Callar ante acciones que manifiesta, ser su maestra para controlar ciertas cosas como ese cùmulo de pensamientos, a veces digo lo logrè, otras, sòlo me retiro al ver que no acepta ciertas cosas...me retiro con respeto, sin molestias porque entiendo que somos ùnicos y no sè como va a hacer esos tiempos que vienen para mi sin expectativas.

Care in old age is a way of getting into the subject of how to face and assume the care of the mother as she reaches the age of 89. For the vast majority it is a blessing to have our mothers with us, performing the role of protector as they once did for our children, sometimes those who are not close to this care tend to be labelled as bad children.

It tends to be said that well, you have your mother with you, what a blessing and happiness. Reaching this age is very satisfying in spite of all the health situations you have gone through and managed. When we talk about care, we only think about that: eating, personal hygiene, taking medicines at the time you are taking them.

Well, this care goes beyond just the physical, how to maintain the balance of the person who is in charge or caregiver as it is referred to; within all this I can say: listening to his stories, as many times as he repeats them, listening every day to something different about how he feels, despite taking his medication. Going shopping as well as I say pharmacy tour as we do now, looking for that medicine that is not easy to find.

Sometimes, to hear her say wait until you get to this age, that's the attitude I wouldn't want to take when my children are taking care of me. The answer is to tell her to be thankful that God allows her to be at this age with her clear mind and her ideas that she has...with mobility and the will to go on living, a mind that for decades organised everything and now we, the children, are the ones who organise her.

For the caregiver it is a task that those who are looking in from the outside see as simple, there is so much included that is not seen but comes with the package. That part of the emotions, those thoughts, that way of looking at life has led me to go deeper into that knowledge of the self in its inner world. That way of seeing life and that its caregiver has another way of looking at it, those clashes of generations that thanks to the knowledge have been coupling, I am understanding, assimilating, applying that great quantity of theories that you only have to live them to be able to give testimony, accompanying others.

Today, on the eve of her 89th birthday, she is proud to organise her celebration, even if it is for two or three people. She told me a few days ago: "Why?" I answered her that we have to celebrate life, her life, with its ups and downs that she has gone through since her birth until today, how brave she has been to face everything she has faced with small children and a husband who was watching what was going on. Sometimes it makes you think: will God allow me to live so many years?

I am very grateful for this reflection, it came to my care at the right time for me, I say right because I consider that I have the tools to carry out this care that many consider to be only food, medicine and cleanliness. This care goes beyond that, when she says: take food off my plate, I don't want anything right now, in other homes I don't know what that will be like. To be silent in the face of actions that he shows, to be his teacher to control certain things like that cumulus of thoughts, sometimes I say I succeeded, sometimes I just withdraw when I see that he doesn't accept certain things...I withdraw with respect, without bother because I understand that we are unique and I don't know how he will do these times that are coming for me without expectations.