It is what it is
Being accepting is one of those positive habbits that helps life enjoyment go further. Being accepting doesn't mean settling in your personal life, it means accepting the way others live around you.
Gaze around and accept your surroundings. There is no good or bad, nice or ugly, neat or messy, there just is.
Everything that is, is
You can live your life without having to choose wether something is good or bad, you can just let it be.
You can live your life without critiquing the way others live theirs, “They” will be ok without your opinion.
When other people don't agree with you, it doesn't make them, bad, dumb, stupid, uneducated, or whatever else the judge in you wants to label, it just makes them people who don't agree with you.
But what about when somebody else’s decisions affect you negatively?
Its important to figure out who this hypothetical “someone” is. Many blame targets are political leaders, bosses, life partners, parents, children, and everyday people around you.
The only way we can stop the affect that “other” people have in our lives is by being secure in our own lives.
Lets take global issues for example. What can you really do about global issues? If we are not a part of the solution, then we are a part of the problem. What can we do to be a part of the solution? We can be responsible global citizens. We can send love and good will to everyone we share this world with. We can lead through example and cause change with our actions.
Stop judging what everybody else is doing, and start paying attention to yourself
Last week while camping. My husband took me on a "short-cut" without telling me we were on a short cut.
I was upset.
How could he lead me off a trail in a place so wild that there are bears around? And I wasn't even mad about the bears. I was mad about the chigs on my pants, and the possible ticks that could be there.
But I wasn't really mad at him.
I was mad, that my stomach had TOLD me that something was wrong. Not just my stomach. All my senses. I even asked: "Are you sure this is the way?"
He was removing a piece of electrical fence to get us to where he was leading us.
My husband does what he does, and I know its my job to asses the situation based on my level of comfort, instead of what he says is ok.
I can't change my husband
And he can't change my need for "the path of least resistance" or what he thinks is "overwhelming safety."
The solution is not to change him or to chastise him, or to be angry. The solution is to stay aware and make my own decisions, do my own research and pay attention to myself.
You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable
You don't have to live in life situations that make you unhappy.
But you also can't change others. You can only change yourself, your actions, and your views.
And it doesn't mean that my husband is bad and it certainly doesn't mean that I am good
It just means that we have different levels of comforts and if I want to make sure my body stays in situations that I like, than I must pay attention to where my own body is... No matter what the opinions of others are.
It is what it is
Its not "good" its not "bad."
It is just for you or not for your.
images and graphics used are mine and compiled together using Canva or simply uploaded from my phone. except the banners which are used with the permission of the community who they were created for