You go to a doctor appointment , expecting to enter the clinic on time, but you find yourself forced to wait more than an hour , so you feel resentful and angry .
You Plan for a vacation in a city , expecting it to be a fun trip and goes according to what you planned , but you encounter since your arrival obstacles that spoil your vacation ,so you get upset, and start thinking about cutting your vacation and going back to your country .
A Young Man or woman Enters in a marriage project, and both hope their relationship be successful but the problems start between them, and their marriage ends in divorce, so he gets sad .
A student Graduates and gets a high qualification , expecting to get a job and the right salary, but in the end he gets less than he had dreamed of, feels disappointed .
You Give your interest and your support for the people but you are surprised that they do not treat you the way you expect .
These are just examples of disappointments, some may be simple, but all of them are linked to the expectations people placed in their mind and when it did not materialize they felt disappointed, situations all the people experienced , probably the story of all humanity , we all complain of the conditions and blame others for what they've done, and they haven't , what they have said and they haven't and always living in a state of wait to see what we want, and avoid what we don't want , so we remain in this endless cycle of frustration and feelings of confusion and pain that depletes our energies and our time, and perhaps some of us explodes in anger and despair .
What is the solution? Is the problem in us, or in others, or in the circumstances? Should we abandon our expectations and our hopes? Could we live without it?
The fact is that no one can live without expectations, each one of us has his own aspirations and needs, but what is required in the opinion of experienced is how to manage these expectations, relationships and circumstances, and take responsibility for our decisions before waiting to see what others offer and what is available to us in life, and accepting the idea that our vision of things, and how we deal with people don't always match unfortunately with others and the way in which we treat them, recognizing that winds do not blow as the vessels wish .
Setting reasonable expectations , and accepting people and conditions on what they are and not on what we want, is a difficult challenge in life, but it doesn't Frustrate human and bring him unhappiness, such as unrealistic expectations and closing on certain ideas and perceptions do to him, and experience prove that the higher the ceiling of human demands was the closer he was to falling into feelings of disappointment and soreness when he doesn't achieve what he want , and the more he has sufficient awareness of the reality and the facts surrounding him the better he was capable of determining what is expected, which will make avoid feeling frustrated and angry , and prevents him from pushing others to change.
But At Last , we shouldn't Confuse between idealistic expectations, and the hopes and ambition and high standards that human puts to himself to achieve success in one area, which becomes a force and motivation for him to accomplish his dream on both personal or practical level .
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