Excessive spoiled nature can lead to child development. So how to deal with a spoiled child. All parents in this world must love their children, so parents will give everything the children ask for, letting children make mistakes for not having the heart to scold them. This is an inappropriate action, because the affection that is channeled improperly will affect the child's development and one of them is the child has excessive spoiled nature.
Children whining, crying, until their behavior that annoys parents is a natural thing if the child ever did all of those things. But it becomes a problem is the attitude of parents in dealing with the behavior of children. Often we find in society that parents have an attitude that is not assertive, inconsistent, not disciplined and soft in the face of children.
How to Overcome Spoiled Children
A spoiled child will do everything he can to get everything he wants. And when the desire is not met, the child will intentionally rage, anger, cry, whine to kick or hit. Then to overcome the spoiled nature of children that can be done by parents is as follows.
Giving an explanation that can be understood by the child
Giving an explanation is very important when parents can not fulfill the child's wishes. Children have the right to cry, be disappointed or sad when their wishes are not fulfilled, then the role of the parent must be explicitly explained so that the child will understand the situation and conditions that occur. After that the child will be easier to overcome his sadness and understand when he should ask back his wishes.
Consistent with spoken words
When the child wants something and the parent is not obeyed by his will, the child will usually cry, whine and go berserk for not being filled with his will. But right then, parents will feel sorry and do not have the heart if not meet the wishes of children. In the end, parents also fulfill the wishes of the child. Such behavior is a parent's inconsistency with what he says. If the behavior of parents like this then the child will think when his desire is not met then he will do the behavior of crying, rage or whine again surely his wish will be met. If the child cries when his desire is not filled then let him cry then talk well to the child and give explanations and understanding to the child why can not fulfill his wishes.
Give praise
When the child does good, then praise the child for the smallest kind of goodness he does. Praise is given to be a separate motivation for children to do the good next. Not necessarily praise with words, but parents can also do it with the actions of affection for example by giving a thumbs up or hugging to kiss the child when the child do good. With such actions the child will be motivated to do the next good and also will feel the affection of his parents.
Give a punishment
Providing punishment is not always harmful to the child. Giving punishment at the right time is a lesson for children not to repeat bad things to do again
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