Here is another relationship topic, not just romantic, but any human relationship. Are you familiar with the following: “I would never ask such a favor, I don’t understand how could she.” “It should be logical that we don’t say things like he does, yet he says these all the time, I don’t understand.” When it comes to human interactions, logic is subjective. Just because I think something is logical and I believe it should be for everyone, it not necessarily is. Maybe he is used to something else, he has different habits, no one was bothered by his behavior before or he wasn’t told, or he would be bothered if I did what he does…ect.
Life Coach - Stephanie - www.mysevenworlds.com
Humans don’t have the ability to read minds. If something really bothers you speak up. It won’t do you justice if you keep your annoyance to yourself, build resentment, start talking shit about the person behind his back, without giving a poor guy a chance to explain, be aware and change is he can. Sometimes you can tell a person the same thing a million times and nothing will change, but in that case, maybe there is a lack of respect. Usually, it’s not that the person wants to make your life a living hell, but he doesn’t want to have to deal with one extra thing to remember. Laziness.
I’m not talking about changing personality, just behavior or habits. Small things that we have control over. Those who respect you and want to grow with you, they will listen and try to minimise the friction. Just because it is logical to me that we don’t leave dirty socks on the floor, it doesn’t mean it is for the other, or he is just lazy to pick them up. But if you don’t ask, you don’t get. I don’t try to micromanage Adam, but I do ask him to change certain habits that dry me crazy, but it won’t affect him negatively.
Sometimes maybe no one was bothered by a person’s habits, but if it bothers me, I will say something. If it cost him little effort, won’t affect him negatively, but it will take away a stress factor from my life, it’s worth asking. But I don’t expect him to read my mind. Even still, sometimes he does :D