We hurt others and sometimes we get hurt too. Offence, like everything else in life comes in a vicious circle. And while it differs in degree and intensity, it is not something that anyone likes to experience.
Extreme cruelty from parents, relatives or people who are naturally obligated to show love can be very hard to forgive and forget. These terrible experiences hurt and even haunt us. We wish it never happened and we struggle with all the anger and bitterness that comes with it.
One major reason why many of us find it difficult to heal after we've been bruised is because we refuse to put the incidence behind us. It hurts even more to think that the offender will simply get away with the havoc done. This is an erroneous belief, after all the Bible makes it clear that whatsoever a man sows, he shall reap.
Another reason why some of us find it difficult to heal is because we don't know how to. We want to forgive and move on but the chains of anger and bitterness weigh is down.
Why not seek help and pray about it. I did and it worked for me. Regardless of how much it hurts. Let it go. Heal. Stop thinking about how deep the stab is but start focusing on the dividends of putting it all behind you.