What do you do when you feel Sad?
Everyone feels sad at some or the other point of time in Life. it is impossible that one can always be happy all the time. There are times when we feel sad and low without a reason also, it's just the energy in the environment that can drain us out and make us go off mood. There can be many reasons for sadness, some people can get out of it soon, and some stay in that feeling for a longer time and everyone has different ways to deal with their sadness.
It's not always sadness, sometimes it's the feeling of being miserable, and that feeling that everything is going wrong, things are just not in order or that the whole world is against me. But whatever it is, we cannot stay in this mood for long.
Normally when I get into this mode, I am gone for a few days. It is like my original self is switched off and there is some new me, who is completely unknown to the world. Different people have different ways of reacting to this sadness or the feeling of being miserable.
Some people go out shopping as they feel it's a good stress buster and it brightens their mood. It is the common one amongst the females. They bounce back easily with shopping, it brings a smile back on their face. Some people indulge in heavy eating, especially sweets, the high sugar levels cause the body to release adrenaline and it increases the anxiety level, and one gets some sort of satisfaction with that. Some people sleep, some disconnect completely and some brood.
I am that last one brooding type. When I have to deal with my sadness, I immediately go into my shell and disconnect from everyone, for 1 day, the mood is very cranky, I avoid talking to anyone, else I can get very nasty, then I brood a lot and make it feel to myself that life has been the most unfair to me. My husband also avoids talking to me in these moments :-) for a day or sometimes even 2 to 3 days, this pattern continues, and then I get back to my senses again, and all those reverse thoughts start as to how silly I am, life is so beautiful for me, why am I such a cranky and silly person, and then I start connecting again with everything around. It does not happen very often with me, but yes once in a few months it does. I want to be left alone in such times, I cannot tolerate any sound in such times, all I want is complete silence around me. I prefer going out to some nature place, like to a park or by the sea side and spend those lonely moments and keep thinking and thinking.
It is a process of 2 to 3 days for me to completely get out of it and come to my original self. And then I am normal like nothing happened and my husband tells me jokingly, thank god you are back to your senses. I too feel it was so unnecessary to do all that drama, I could have been ok with just a little cheer, but then there is no fun in life without some drama, right?
Some people when they are Sad, they want people around them to comfort them, to make them feel good, and they cheer up. For me it is the opposite, I get more annoyed and irritated when someone keeps asking me what happened. I like to be left alone to myself.
We are all different characters and have our own unique ways. What are your ways to deal with sadness?