Thinking of my school days I remember I always had very kind teachers and that made a lot of difference to me. I was a very introvert and a shy person in my growing up. I would get scared very easily and with such a character thank god I had some beautiful souls in my life to groom me. Thank god I am not the same any more. I remember there was one teacher in our boarding school who was very nasty. She would beat children black and blue and I would always dread that she should never be my teacher, and thankfully she never was. All those under her tuitions would always stay very scare, she had very high temperament and she would mercilessly beat up children. I would get shivers looking at her in that act. Her belief was that Children would learn only in that manner, if she would not be harsh, they would not learn.
My sister when she had her children, I would see her doing similar things, if her boys would get naughty, she would beat them up and she would say they will only learn like this. I never had a good feeling seeing any child beaten up, and I would always observe that such children would turn out to be rebellious. For my Son in his growing, I have never hit him, occasionally I would shout at him if he was wrong in something. Just like me in his growing up he was also a timid child, so all the more I was careful with him. When he was just enrolled to a school in Nursery, he had a very nasty teacher, who would yell at him and make him sit on the last seat. He had just started talking in those times, and as a result of her nasty attitude towards him, he was so scared that he stopped talking completely. I would wonder at home, that why is his vocabulary failing. One day I reached to his school all of a sudden and noticed that teacher yelling at him, that same moment I went to the Principal's office and complained and then removed my Son from that school.
Sometimes you have to be strict with children specially when they get adamant on demands but hitting them and yelling at them is not the solution to deal with them. They get psychologically impacted and then those fears stay with them for a long period of time, when they grow up, they pass on the same patterns to their children as well.
It is my belief and I follow this as well that children should be treated with a lot of kindness and understanding. If they are not doing something, or if they are stubborn or if they are over mischievous parents need to understand what is driving that behavior and just not keep reacting to their behavior in a manner which best
suits them. Over mischievous kids, probably their energy is not getting channeled in the right manner and hence they either become destructive or tough to handle. In their growing whatever experiences they get, when they grow up it plays a big role in their life. Their childhood experiences shape up their personality, so as elders we need to ensure that we always treat them with kindness and not harshness.
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