Colour changes
Many have said it
Heard it
Never seen it
No to seeing it
Dismissed it.

It moves inside
It never leaves
No need to see
Within blue seas
Eye colour shifts
For confirmations.

Do I tell others they are a good person? Occasionally I do. Although, I find I usually say that when a person is looking for the response that they are a good person. I know it’s not me they are trying to convince. They are trying to convince themselves and there’s something unresolved within them. I know that no matter how much I reassure another that they are good, they won’t ever really believe me. I’ve traveled that repeat road tripping experience enough to know.

I don’t think I’m either a good person, or a bad person. I know I am both and everything in between those two polar opposites. I know myself intimately. So, when someone tells me I’m a good person, I wonder what their perceptions of the world are.

Good___________________________< | >___________________________Bad

Ever heard the expression, “black and white thinking”? Supposedly, this is an unhealthy way of seeing the world, or so I’ve been taught and read. Quite apparently, good and bad are opposites. I’ve had a close look at myself and my way of thinking for years now. I’ve put it under a microscope and watched my thought processes daily. One thing I saw was this “black and white” thinking, programmed in there like cement. This need to categorize and apply the label of good or bad.

Shifting away from “black and white” thinking into a more balanced way of seeing the world taught me something I wasn’t expecting. I realized that society is constructed in terms of black and white, the ‘Duality Game’, as I call it. Most people perceive the world this way. Pick a side. You absolutely must align with a side, someone’s side, wherever you are, at all times.

It’s a whole different viewpoint. It’s one most are not comfortable with. It’s one I was extremely uncomfortable with years ago. For several years, I’ve focused on seeing the world from this perspective, without aligning to one side or the other. This has made many people rather unhappy with me when I won’t pick their side, or align to a ‘side’. There have been attempts to coerce me in one direction or the other. I’ve been yelled at, verbally threatened, and it’s come close to a physical assault, as recently as last year.

Do you see yourself as a good person or a bad person?

Do you see only one side of the coin, or do you acknowledge the whole coin, standing balanced on the edge so that you see both sides?

More importantly, do you see the range between the two extremes of good and bad?