Initially, I used to wish that every child in the orphanage should quickly be adopted without any protocol because I believe that when they are inside a home, they get the needed care and love as a growing child instead of being kept over there without a specific family.
However, as I kept navigating life as an adult and as a mom, I began to know better. Now, I have realized why the process of adopting a child are always tight ones, and I love it that way. As much as an orphanage child belonging to a family sounds good due to the love and care he or she will get, it's important to investigate the prospective parents seeking to adopt the child to know how capable they are, their homes, and many other needed requirements they must meet. If not, some people will just adopt a child and use them as slaves in their homes or even something more terrible than slaves.
When you look at the rules at the surface, they might appear harsh, and that's why some prospective parents complain of many checks and interviews. I heard of a couple who wanted to adopt a grown child—not that they don't have their own child but as a way of supporting the society—but halfway into the process, they gave up due to stress involved.
This made me think removing strictness with the adoption will be okay so that more children can leave the orphanage homes and belong to a family. But then, what if the wrong people have access to this innocence of children if the strictness is being removed. The likes of human traffickers and the ritualists? That would be making these children vulnerable, you know, and these kids will end up being abused and treated badly, so it's better we stick with the structure of adoption to minimize risks.
Here in my country, we have heard and seen cases where children suffer from their real parents; kids are treated like trash, and I will wonder if actually those kids are adopted or not. If biological parents can treat their own blood badly, how much more others... It is important that vital background checks must be made prior to adoption. I know a woman who adopted a girl and a boy, and to this date, she treats them like gold. I really pray she continues this way.
There are still many prospective parents out there who are real with good hearts, but to be on the safe side, proper checks and strict rules must be well observed during the adoption of any child. It will be great to see a child leaving an orphanage and having a happy ending, so if making the rules and processes strict will make these orphanage kids safe, then it will be worth all the stress.
Indeed, every child deserves to be in a home, yes, but it should be a safe home.
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