My grandma is a typical example of a person with a hot temper. Living with her for many years was a whole lot of experiences, and permit me to say that uncontrolled anger is more than just a personality trait. It is not only dangerous to you as a person but also to those around you.
This kind of anger only lasts for a few minutes, yet the damage can even last for years depending on the gravity. Imagine when you react immediately out of anger and release a terrible word, just like a husband called his wife a prostitute out of anger the other time in my neighborhood. The outcome was not only separation, but it also cost their three-year-old marriage.
Like a joke, the wife was deeply hurt and couldn't forgive the husband for such an unguided word without evidence. His anger wasn't controlled, and that was an end to their marriage. You see, anger is dangerous; it's terrible and must be intentionally controlled no matter how much you claim that you can't help it; otherwise this emotion will control your life, and that wouldn't be healthy in any way.There is no excuse for bad behavior. No need to romance it and use words like, "You know, I get angry easily; that's how it has been." Says who? And you use your weakness to cause pain to another person?
We all have shortcomings; there are different emotions we silently battle as humans, but I think being a hot-tempered person shouldn't be a gate pass to hurting others. Personally, I am very emotional, and I can be carried away sometimes during misunderstandings. This has caused issues between my hubby and me, but I had to make an effort to control my emotions; there's no excuse to allow your emotions to hurt others. When you do, the deed has been done, and everyone might not take it lightly.
Uncontrolled anger has a high capacity for destroying relationships because most times, you can't undo an action or retrieve a spoken word out of anger. A hot-tempered person will only think he or she is expressing himself or herself without realizing that another person is being hurt deeply, carrying emotional wounds; thus, using a hot temper as an excuse for harmful behavior is a no-no for me.
However, I understand that for some people, the environment they grew up in contributes to their anger issues; for others, it's the economic hardship and frustration. It can also be stress or trauma, but in all, emotional discipline must be embraced without justifying your actions.
Even in our different homes, children must be guided on how they can calmly communicate how they feel without being aggressive; otherwise, it starts from there and gradually affects society at large. Again, anyone with a hot temper issue must be accountable for it...it is not enough to apologize after raging; it's enough to work on your emotions and change for good.
Some people are making effort once they discover such weakness, and I admire those kinds of people; it's simply maturity to embrace self-control without allowing your emotions to control you.
Overall, everyone is born with emotions, so it's part of us, but learning how to manage them is part of becoming responsible adults. That way, we live healthier in our society because there shouldn't be an excuse for bad behavior.
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