How many of us are in trouble with this simple and common word?
For sure, I'm much more on the yesman line than on nogirl.
No, how many times do you say it? I do not. They ask me for more hours at work but I have other commitments? That's hard to say that no.
Friends or boyfriend want to do something very boring for me, I say no? And how many No not said have then ended up suffocating me. Why say No is important.
Sometimes it is difficult to say no, for education, for habit, for fear of conflicts, for fear of offending the other with our denial, for guilt, for insecurity.
Because a No is a strong message.
Yet learning to say No is important for ourselves and for our well-being.
Knowing how to say No means recognizing our needs and not being afraid to express them.
Saying no is fundamental to assert ourselves, it is not violence and not even sin, but only to affirm "I do not want this".
Always say yes often seems the easiest way, because it avoids any kind of conflict, supporting to please others can be very harmful for our lives.
Questioning what you want is right, but if not then leads us to say in doubt always and then to ask after "Why I did it? I really did not want .." sometimes you have to listen to the belly that has us end up in unpleasant situations and where we feel uncomfortable.
Say no means to accept your limits, more than I do not arrive, I do not want to listen to one's own will. If you say no it is difficult to do it by giving explanations, exposing with sincerity the reason for a no, without fear of being judged but only expressing itself, in this way you avoid looking too peremptory but you get the same respect for your decision.
Explaining why we reject something is a clear and straightforward way of exposing ourselves to avoid misunderstandings and to lighten a No that may seem heavy.
So as Espinosa says, trust your no.
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