Today I wanted to share with you a thought on a subject that is particularly close to my heart and which in these days we talk, too much, even inappropriately I would say.
Today on facebook I shared my opinion on the matter.
I see the posts about violence against women proliferate. Almost it is urgent to say my point of view , you have to be against violence, all kind of violence , not to write today the lovely post "No to violence against women" if you have written at the halloween post with sl""shaming like " Girls have to dress up monsters not from w**res."
Speaking of monsters, there are monsters, not the men , they do not matter, the monsters are those stupid and retrograde thoughts that make sure that both men and women believe themselves superior to another human being and therefore entitled to kill him, humiliate him, hurt him or her.
They are all those terrifying thoughts that do not want free and independent people, they are those "The woman must be like that, look after the house, dress herself in a certain way, be kind and shy .." and "The man must be like that, pay the bills, keep everyone safe, be strong and considerate his job a priority always .. "
It starts with a thought to create violence, that of wanting to pigeonhole a person depriving her of her identity and freedom and in the most serious cases of life.
We must educate people to respect diversity and get rid of those stubborn love stories
"Love as a sacrifice, love is beautiful eve if we argue, you let everything go, including happiness, all for the family".
That is not love is masochism. People are not lambs to immolate, arguing is disgusting and not a sign of a healthy relationship, in that there is dialogue does not scream, the family is composed of people who love themselves not by people who make war, we are in 2018, the bonds can be split and nothing is worth as much as one's own happiness, not even an old ideal imbued with guilt and psychological manipulation.
It is not enough to post a single day a year to remove violence against women, we must eradicate the thought that leads to it.
Do not be hypocritical, do not publish posts against violence against women if you then see one in a miniskirt and immediately think "s*ut" or if you are convinced that women must be and behave in a certain way and not in another, if you think it's beautiful having the boyfriend "ultra jealous and possessive" because "so you see that he cares" or if you still expect that man should keep home and family and that the role of the woman is at home not to work, dependent and submissive. Do not talk about violence if you think that some lives count less than others and that freedom is not an important, essential value.
If you think about these things, clean your thoughts because these old and foolish thoughts lead to violence.
And that's exactly what I think, sometimes I feel and see ways of thinking so backward that violence does not surprise me, some erroneously attribute little and too much value to the other person at the same time, a sick mechanism, where the other devalues but you want it at all costs.
I remain also based on the general hypocrisy, we talk a lot about violence against women but in everyday life many shoot sentences and raw words on the body of women, as if it were not yet a private and personal matter.
Moreover, although many people are still talking, they look around if they notice scenes of violence or signs of it.
I think we should really educate ourselves in creating shame in those who humiliate another person and not to be ashamed 'humiliated, the wounded, the stricken.
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