From a slave to a master chapter # 40 - Discover Yourself, check your beliefs

A Memoir

As I have written in previous articles the key of beliefs is extremely important for reality creation. Here, you can identify some of the beliefs that govern your way of action in life. These beliefs are the fundamental stances that create your reality. When you identify a belief that you find personally impeding, you may want to uproot it in the ways I have explained and then to replace it with a more appropriate one.

I deliberately included some world-views that seem to be not related to relationships because sometimes it is easier to identify impeding beliefs from a neutral perspective.

About the photo: The Makomanai Cemetery is an awe-inspiring place. Located in the outskirts of Sapporo, Japan, a large stone Buddha occupies the sprawling landscape. Photo by Shigeo Ogawa

The Beliefs

1. I am not allowed to ask my spouse to fulfill my needs
2. Love causes disappointment
3. I do not deserve to be financially abundant
4. I do not have to do a thing; someone else will take care of me
5. Everybody hates me
6. I am useless; a nobody
7. In a relationship one has to give up one’s individuality
8. My wants and wishes bother other people
9. Lots of money brings lots of worries
10. Sex without love is wrong
11. Love is worrisome
12. My environment should change
13. What was done to me is unfair
14. I am not responsible for my actions
15. I am limited by commitment
16. Everyone takes care of themselves
17. Dealing with money is dirty
18. I must not enjoy sex
19. Love causes anxiety
20. The future will be worse
21. I am not well rewarded for what I do
22. I am a looser
23. Relationship impedes creativity
24. I have no patience to listen to others
25. Those who deal with spiritual business should not deal with money
26. Sex is meant only for procreation
27. Love is pain, suffering and agony
28. I must not take risks
29. Life is cruel to me
30. I am inexperienced
31. Relationship impedes freedom
32. It’s better to be alone
33. It is not honorable to make money
34. It is forbidden to masturbate
35. Love hurts and disturbs
36. The unknown future is scary
37. I have to comply with the situation
38. I am a coward
39. Relationship restricts
40. It’s better to be quiet and say nothing
41. It is impossible to make money honestly
42. I am not sexy enough
43. Love causes me the fear of being abandoned
44. It is forbidden to be selfish
45. I am always guilty
46. All the other people know better than I do
47. I will have a better life with someone else
48. No one understands me
49. To make a lot of money one has to cheat
50. The size of my sexual organ is important
51. Love is jealousy
52. I must not change or else I might loose society’s love
53. It is forbidden to ask things for myself
54. I believe in superstitions
55. It is not fair that everything depends on me
56. Everyone hates me
57. A man who loves money is corrupted
58. How my body is shaped has an importance
59. Love strangles
60. I must never refuse or else I would not be loved
61. I should feel secured and comfortable
62. I am destined to hurt people too often
63. Most spouses cheat on their partners
64. There is no such thing as ‘good friends’
65. I prefer to give up the money than ask for the debt to be paid
66. I have sexual problems
67. Love chains and invalidates my freedom
68. It is better for me to give than to receive
69. I am not worthy
70. I must not express my wishes
71. My spouses have never understood me
72. Everybody is against me
73. It is better to give money than to ask and receive it
74. I am sexually inferior
75. Love is only giving
76. I am afraid that people might envy my success
77. I don’t have enough time
78. I should be thoughtful
79. My spouses have always wanted only my body/money
80. I am always right
81. I also enjoy life with no money
82. I am responsible for satisfying my partner
83. It is possible to love only one person
84. Everything is wrong
85. My fate is fixed
86. I may fail and I must not fail
87. Relationship is a disaster
88. People are generally not willing to help and support
89. I am also secured with no money
90. I have sexual perversions
91. It is possible to love only those who love in return
92. Life sucks
93. This is who I am and it’s impossible to change
94. I don’t have the adequate education
95. Relationship necessitates to be in touch with the entire family of my partner
96. Nobody is trustworthy
97. Money which comes easily also disappears quickly
98. Orgasm exhausts me
99. Expressing feelings of love causes abuse
100. It is impossible that things will be good all the time
101. This is the way I was born and this is the way I will remain
102. My ability to choose is limited
103. Marriage is forever
104. Most people cannot be trusted
105. I am precious even without money
106. I am willing to have sex only with those who satisfy me in other fields as well
107. One who has never received love can never give love
108. If it always good then life will be of no meaning
109. I have no luck
110. I can’t have what I want
111. Arguments and quarrels are part of any system
112. People give you something only when they want something in return
113. Money is not everything in life
114. Sexual intercourse is a test for my abilities
115. One can either hate or love
116. There is no such thing as life without suffering
117. This is my character and there is nothing to do about it
118. I am an irresponsible person
119. I find it difficult to be faithful
120. I can’t trust anybody
121. My family has never had money
122. It is forbidden to talk about sex
123. Expressing feelings of love distances others
124. I have childhood traumas
125. I don’t have the resources
126. I do not deserve more than I currently have
127. I am not attractive enough
128. There are bad people in the world
129. I will always lack some money to satisfy my needs
130. A virgin girl is a decent girl
131. It’s difficult to find love
132. I have failed in the past so I will not succeed now
133. I do not have skills
134. I must not desire
135. Nobody wants me
136. Most people are jealous
137. One must work hard to gain money
138. It is not allowed to have sex in certain ways
139. It is impossible to love everyone
140. It is impossible to release the past
141. I do not have capacities
142. I do not see a solution so I should cancel my wish
143. No body loves me
144. There are people with different qualities
145. It is forbidden to ask money from other people
146. I must reach an orgasm when I make sex
147. It is impossible to love like in the first love
148. The past has much meaning
149. I do not have any alternative to act differently
150. What I want is not good enough
151. I do not know how to love
152. There are people who worth more than others
153. I don’t have money and will never have
154. Homosexual sex is wrong
155. I do not know what love is
156. My parents/teachers are to blame for everything
157. I can do nothing
158. What I want is too ambitious
159. I am not suitable for a relationship
160. Most people are exploiters
161. I am hopeless when I find myself in situations beyond my control
162. I am hopeless because I am subject to events from past lifetimes (Karma)
163. When I get older I will become weak, sick and powerless
164. My existence depends on my body and its experiences; when I will die my consciousness will die with it.
165. Mney is evi. People who have money are greedy and less spiritual than the poor. They are less happy and snob.
166. I am not creative and have none imagination whatsoever.