Hi,
I think that someone already asked this, but I need your advice. I have been seeing someone from my college for several months and I can definitely say he’s my boyfriend. I feel love for him but I’m not sure he is my TrueLover and I’m not fully convinced that we will live together for the rest of our lives. Last week he asked me again to have sex with him and I really don’t know what to do. Is it wrong to have sex with someone who is not your TrueLover? Maybe the word ‘wrong’ is too harsh but you know what I mean.
Thank you
Catherine
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Catherine,
No, it is not wrong to be intimately involved and to have sex with someone whom you do not truly love. It is not wrong because you are never judged; there isn’t any grand entity always watching you from above who decides whether or not you have sinned.
TrueLove is a state of consciousness that humanity is quickly moving towards. For some people, it takes few years to reach that state, whereas for others it may take a whole lifetime and even more. On the journey, we meet many people and have many experiences some more pleasant than others. There is no doubt that when we choose to do certain things the outcomes can impede our journey, and in practice, we may be taking one step forward and three steps backwards. Although we learn from such events there is absolutely no need to experience any sadness or any failure on the journey. Your path can really be paved with gold, diamonds and beauty. So by now you already know to appreciate the dark episodes that come upon you and not to judge them.
When two people choose to join together they had better make the conscious decision to unite at all levels; meaning physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Once this full alliance is made, sex can become one of the most wonderful, rejuvenating and enjoyable experiences for a human being. The intensity of the feelings that are experienced in love making, a kind of art performance, cannot be described in words but has to be felt personally. When you are in bed with someone you truly and genuinely love, you are placing yourself in a sweet place of empowerment, enjoyment and mastery all at the same time. You are fully connected with your body and your spirit and the connection, being perfectly appropriate, leaves no room for anything less than sheer joy, reassurance and happiness.
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At this point, I would like to recommend a book for you to read that briefly discusses sexual force. This book is called “Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon”, and I am convinced that the insights contained in the book will trigger from within you the necessary, silent catalysts which will, in turn, take you forward to many more understandings.
The question that you should actually ask yourself, Catherine, is what are you doing with someone that you do not see as your lifelong partner? If you look for TrueLove then why are you compromising your feelings, your body, your visions, your spirit, the God that you are?! If you were with your TrueLover right now, you would not need to doubt yourself or question whether or not to have sex with him, would you? The fact that you are battling with that question gives a proof, a wonderfully helpful tool, that something must be changed in your life in order to gain balance, harmony and satisfaction.
Having said all that, humans are notorious for over thinking situations. You are young at heart, indoctrinated by the society's images about relationships and love and therefore your mind is full of doubts and concerns. But generally the mind should be left aside when relationships are at stake If you allow yourself to enjoy the beautiful moments with your boyfriend you may be surprised to find out that your simple love connection is developing to become a beautiful true-love relationship.
Good Luck!
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