BE APPRECIATIVE: Learn to appreciate little things, even when you feel the things are totally small and you feel like they aren't enough for you. Learn to say THANK YOU.
BE RESERVED: Learn to be reserved, don't spill fire and brimstone when you are angry someone gets you angry. Be reserved, be cool, be calm, don't be too rushed to say things you are not suppose to say. Words are powerful.
LEARN TO SAY ' IM SORRY' : This sentence works powerfully, if you are being nagged, and you said ''im sorry'' either you are at fault or not, it sends a message to the other party which could be termed as been respectful and not over-hyped. Learn to say it..
DO NOT BE TIRED: Some people be like, I'm sick and tired of this relationship, i can't continue anymore, this is too much for me to bear, don't be, every relationship has it own ups and downs, it depends on how you want it perfect, people with healthier relationship had gone through what's more than yours. Be focused and never be tired.
INSTEAD OF NAGGING, REMIND THEM HOW BEAUTIFUL THEY ARE: Funny? No.. After they might have wronged you, just remind them how beautiful they are. Hmmm.. My love, you are beautiful, no one is like you. How awesome that could be. It gives you inner strength and maximizes your maturity and how long you can be under pressure. Its good for your health too.
PUT YOURSELF IN THEIR SHOES TOO: When you nag about someone, try to think what they will be passing through too. Don't be pushed by your ego, be pushed by your compassion.
AVOID KEEPING GRUDGES: You tend to kill yourself if you continue keeping grudges against your partner, tell them where they wronged you, politely, i repeat, politely. This will help you grow a stronger relationship.
YOUR PAST IS PAST: Leave your past alone, its to keep hurting you until you let go of it, create a formidable future for your family not living in the shadow of your past.
DON'T COMPARE YOUR SPOUSE WITH ANYBODY: Stop comparing your spouse with anybody, you don't know what they are passing through, not everyone who laughs has something which makes them happy. Believe in your spouse, correct in love, build your future together.
NEVER RELENT IN PRAYING: Prayers actually works well, if things are beyond your control, try prayer. God will surely hear your cry.
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Its never too late to appreciate what you have. Because you are lucky to have each other. There are so many people out there who are looking up to you, they want to have the person you are always nagging at.
Your spouse trusted you, that's why they told you their past. You don't have to nag. It kills and it destabilize relationship even if you are meant for each other.