WE82 post topics: Past and Future

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Special shout out to Hive account@galenkp for this opportunity to share as always.

Topic:

If you wanted to give me or someone else on hive some advice from something you learned in 2021 to carry forward into 2022, what would it be and why? How do you think it would help me or whomever you chose to hand it to, how did you learn that wisdom and would you personally carry it into the new year also? Why?

I have always been a firm believer that we can always learn from each other because our life's experiences are different. I've learnt quite some lessons this year and I would be more than happy to share these lessons with us here on Hive. If it helps at least one person, then I would be more than happy.

I learnt an important lesson this year and that's the importance of giving a listening ear to those who try to caution us. I am saying this because we lost my mother in law around September and I believe it would have been avoided if she listened to her husband; my father in law. I am not trying to blame the dead, far from it, I just want us to at least give a listening ear to those who also have our best interest at heart and nothing else.

She has been sick for a week before she decided to embark on this journey to attend her friend's son's wedding. She was just getting better and my father in law told her to rest it out and speak to her friend that she wouldn't be able to make it especially because her friend already knew she had been sick before that day and the distance was such a long journey. My father in law explained to her that her body wouldn't be able to withstand that journey especially because she hasn't recovered so well. She decided to go to the wedding and she came back dead 😣😭😢.

The journey going there was a smooth one for her on Friday that day and I even spoke with her and that was when I got to know she travelled. We laughed, she heard my daughter's voice and she told me she would soon get to her destination in 30 minutes. She finished the wedding and we spoke to her that Saturday when the wedding was over late that night and she said she would leave first thing the next morning which was on Sunday and that was the last we heard of her.

She joined herself to the car conveying the bride and groom since where they would drop her would be easier and her friend, whom she went to the wedding for was coming just behind them with another car. The car she was with the couple had a head-on collision with another car and that was how she died due to shock because she wasn't having any bruise on her body but the bride and groom came off worse with fractures and had to be taken to the intensive care unit. We were called after service that day that something had happened and with confusion looming in the air and all, we got there only to meet her dead body.

As I said, I am not blaming her but what I want to pick out from this is that it could have been avoided if she had taken extra care to listen to her husband. Going into 2022, I want to us re-evaluate our choices and ask ourselves why we are doing what we are doing. We need to know why we are doing it, is it for show off or from a genuine place of care?

Another lesson I learned from her life in 2021 is that she was an amazing woman. She would naturally step out of her comfort zone to help just anyone and this was evident even in her death because she looked beyond herself just so she can be there for a friend. Going into 2022, I want us to also live for others because we need one another. No one can make it in this world all alone because life wasn't designed that way.

A lot of people came around for the burial to give glowing tributes to what an amazing person she was. How she helped a whole community to have a motorable road to those she pushed to buy a landed property and so much help she rendered to so many others. She was a woman who didn't live for herself and that's the lesson I also learnt from her life which I would love to share with you all.

We need to take the focus off ourselves in 2022 and learn to make others happy, push others to be successful and achieve greatness because their win is a win for us too. When others are better off, they would never forget that we were instrumental in their life's journey and it helps them to be able to replicate the same to others and the good cycle continues.

Finally, I would love to say that life would always happen. Maybe if she didn't die in the accident, she would have gone any other way if it was destined for her to die at that time, so we should learn to focus on doing good always because we never know just when the curtain would fall but the good things we have done for others would never go unnoticed even if they choose to forget it.

Here are some of the pictures from the burial: