Good day, people of Hive! Welcome to my blog. Today's topic is from Hive-Learners which says:Post Trauma. So let's dive in.
Honestly, if I will say the truth, I have experienced trauma once and that was when I lost my late mummy during my Junior Secondary School days and trauma is something that many people go through after experiencing a painful incident, and it is really not something good. I have seen how it affected someone close to me, and honestly, it opened my eyes to how deep emotional pain can affect a person's life.
I have a friend who was raped twice some years back, and I can say that the experience really affected her emotionally and mentally. Before the rape incidents, she used to be very free, playful, and very comfortable around people. But after the incidents, things really changed around her. There are still some times where she will suddenly gets scared or uncomfortable around some people because of the trauma she experienced, and it always pains me to see her go through such moments. It always makes my heart ache for her.
Sometimes, there are some certain situations that make her emotional, and you can tell that the pain cannot just disappear overnight. At first, I did not really understand how trauma worked. I thought maybe with time she would forget about the incident and move on completely without dwelling on it. But as time went on and we became very close friends, I observed her more and realized that some painful experiences stay in a person's mind for a very long time. Truth is, trauma is not something people simply wake up one day and forget.
One thing I noticed about her is that she no longer trusts guys easily because of what happened to her. And honestly, I do not blame her for feeling that way because experiences like that can make someone feel unsafe and broken inside. There was a time she blamed herself for what happened to her and became withdrawn from people, but after talking to her and explaining things to her that withdrawing herself would not solve anything, she slowly started opening up again.
Despite everything she passed through, one thing I truly admire and like about her is that she never allowed those incidents to completely define her life or destroy the kind person she is. She is still one of the most lovely, friendly, and caring people I know. She always supports me and gives me advice whenever she notices I am about to do something that could later affect me negatively. Truth is, she has a very good heart despite all the pain she has experienced.
Now, she is the Miss Okun of her tribe and has achieved a lot of things. She also makes sure to help the less privileged and people who are also passing through the same thing she experienced. Watching her go through all of that taught me that healing from trauma takes time. People who go through traumatic experiences need patience, support, understanding, and people who genuinely care for them. What really helped my friend was how she opened up to people and how she noticed that people cared for her and never judged her.
In conclusion, my friend's experience taught me to be more understanding toward people because sometimes we do not know the battles some people are silently fighting.
This is my entry for the Hive Learners Weekly Featured Content Week 218 Episode 03.
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