Salute! Salute!
I'm back again today, to conclude this article. This is the second part, I will continue with the discussion of the remain 3 steps to personal Freedom. And may be I may give you a bonus step, anyways let me not get ahead of myself.
Here are the remaining thee steps;
- Get out of unhealthy relationship, friendship and company.
No man is an island, that true, nobody can do life alone. But it is also true we are not made for every body. The natural purpose of doing life together is to help and better each other not to destroy, hinder and killing the dreams of each other or sucking life from each other.
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If the relationship or the friends you have and the company you keep does not enhance you, it does not allow you to be you or it keeps you from attending the most precious things in your life, run! Buddy run!. You are just a slave in that relationship, you're forced to remain normal and relevant to them, but not enable to go after your dreams. This is my advice to you, anybody who does not respect your freedom, values, purpose and dreams is unfit to be your friend.
He can be a good person, a long time friend, a closed relative or any person close to you, if this individual enslaves you in some ways, walk out of that relationship. The company you keep, you become. A good friendship respects your freedom.
One day I had a story, it was not the first time that I had this story but this time it was told by a different person and it had a different ending. The story goes like this; a farmer went out one day to the nearby forest for walk, some where in his walk he saw an eagle's nest. I was determined to go close and see what is in the nest, behold he found two eagle eggs. He took them with him, when reached home he mixed eagle's eggs with those of a hen so that she can sit on them too.
According to the story, eagle's eggs hatched together with hens eggs. So the chicks and the eaglets grew together under the care of the mother hen. Sometimes later has this eaglets grew up. One day their mother pass over that place and saw them feeding among hens. She started calling them out, but they never responded. She did that everyday since that day, nevertheless her effort was in vain.
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Then the story teller asked us to complete the story we did our best to give it a beautiful ending. He told us, the end was not what we had imagined. He said those eaglets who had become full grown later, died before they realized they were eagles not chicken. It was a miserable ending as listeners we never imagined it could end like that.
This is what unhealthy relationship or friend do to us, they keep us scratching the ground instead of soaring in higher skies, the make us feed on chicken food, when we are meant to eat meat. Everything is just the opposite of who we real are. It time you come out before you loose connection with your identity.
- Guard yourself from unrealistic expectations from both yourself or other people.
It is said bite what you can chew, hunt for what you can kill. It is true. Watch out your expectations are silent killers. Many people die slowly when they reach appoint where they are convinced that they can't achieve their expectations.
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Expectations equals responsibility, whatever your expecting your responsible to make it happen. And if you allow other people's expectations to be imposed on you make sure you have the muscles to fulfill that responsibility. If you don't have the ability to fulfill those responsibility then you have and you carry unrealistic expectations. However if you insist to live with unrealistic expectations, you have just enslaved yourself.
Whatever expectations we may have they must be realistic, because being free is being honest with yourself. Nobody who lives in self deception is real free. If you want to be free, be honest.
One of the areas to be honest is to accept that no matter who you are, as long as you're human, you have limits. Once you accept this reality you have set free yourself to focus on the responsibilities which real take advantage of your capabilities. Respecting your limits instead of trying to go against them and at the same time maximizing the areas of your capabilities that is freedom.
Expectations brings responsibility and responsibility demands capability, so if your capabilities do not much your expectations then your expectations are unrealistic. But when you get the three pieces fit together your expectations are realistic. And when you're realistic you're free.
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- Do not sell your soul to material things, money and fame.
When you loose your money, material things or fame, or if you do not achieve these three things in your life, all is not lost. But if you loose your soul into all these things then everything is absolutely lost.
You may have all, yet your soul continues to feel empty and life meaningless. Do not allow yourself to become a slave of material things, money or fame, but to a life that fulfills your soul in a way words cannot express.
There may be many ways to make money, achieve fame and horde things but there's only one way to satisfy your soul is to make it you're goal. When you soul is not free, your life is not free. A free soul enhances life.
Conclusion.
To cull the complexity of possessive influences, so that we can think, speak, work and do life in tune with our identity and dreams. It is an expensive process of grown into becoming what we should be. But to those who know the test of true personal freedom the price is worth it.
Thank you for your time
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