I have never agreed to force children to do things they do not want. The word "obligate", in itself, already has a negative charge. It is defined as "making someone do something using force or authority". I translate it as doing something you do not want and do not feel.
Children are being trained and our job as parents should not be to force them but to teach them to make their own decisions and learn to choose, to develop their own feelings and not to be afraid to express what they feel.
I think it is fundamental to protect their innocence and not contaminate them with thoughts or actions of adults.
Teach values through example and not punitive actions. It is not about letting them do what they want but to guide them, listen to them and understand them a little more. Let them learn from their own falls and frustrations. That they develop their feelings in a natural way and not by obligation.
Share
Why do we force our children to share their toys when they do not want to? In a study conducted by a group of scientists and psychologists, they suggest that when children share their things because they decided so and not because they were forced, they are much more likely to repeat the action and be more generous in the future. What can you do? Do not punish them. If your child is reluctant to share a better toy, talk to him, explain why it is good to share with others and preach
Ask for forgiveness
A child should not be forced to ask for forgiveness. Apologizing is a sincere act that must be felt in the deepest part of the heart. The correct thing would be to explain to them that what they did was wrong and that they should not hurt others. The age will come at which he will voluntarily and because he feels it.
Give kisses and hugs : for children giving kisses
Is a manner of showing affection and affections I should never be forced.
Stay in someone else's house
If children do not want to stay in someone's house, you should explore the reasons behind their refusal. Many times we force them to stay in places where they are not happy or feel uncomfortable. If we at least understood their reasons, we could look for alternatives to make them feel better. As always, give him the option to choose. It is not giving in to what they want but knowing why they want it and finding a middle ground
To be those who do not want to be
It is one of the biggest mistakes that parents make. Sometimes we force our children to practice some sport or perform some activity they hate or go into a profession they object to. It is good to expose them to experiences but if it is something that does not make them happy, why insist? As parents we must give alternatives and let them decide.