10 SIMPLE WAYS TO TELL IF SOMEONE IS LYING TO YOU
Do you know how much lies go undetected? Anyone can be a liar, even your best friend. Don’t get too paranoid, there are some ways you can detect lies.
VAGUE ANSWERS
When you ask a person a question, pay attention to how he responds. It’s best you make it a Yes or No question. If the person says a lot of things before answering, it may be a sign of a lie. What you need to do is push harder to get a direct answer. It’s hard to tell a straight lie in a plausible way, that’s why liars try to talk a lot instead of answering right away. So ask the person to stick to the point and watch how they react.
LAUGHING IT OFF: The person is trying to laugh their way out of the conversation, they might be lying to you. They try to come up with their wonderful sense of humor. So play along with them and laugh it off then ask your question again even in a funny way that makes it look like a joke but let the person know you are serious. This way you will be able to discern if the answer this time is a lie or not.
EXAGGERATED HONESTY: One sign of a lie is exaggeration of one’s honesty. If someone is promising and swearing to you that they are telling the truth even though you didn’t show a doubt in their words, be alert and ask them why they are trying to convince you of something when you believe them anyway. This question might make them feel uncomfortable which is great for you in finding out the truth. Just tell them, look I believe in you, was just asking a simple question.
SYMPATHY: It is so hard to believe someone who seems to be sympathetic. You have to be strong so you don’t fall for that cos it might be a small trick to deceive you. If someone is telling you that they know how you feel, know what it’s like, all this sort of statements can twist your mind when you are trying to find out the truth.
ANSWERING QUESTIONS WITH QUESTIONS: Everyone feels vulnerable and uncomfortable when telling lies. Telling a direct lie is hard so people often try to avoid answering the question either by changing the subject or answering you back. Most important thing you should remember is not to start answering their questions else they will be in control and that’s the last thing you want to happen. As the last resort, you can tell the person directly that you don’t like the way the conversation is going and they can continue with their questions after answering yours.
FREEZING: Having a long pause before answering are signs of a lie coming out especially if your questions was a very simple one. So just repeat the question as if you don’t suspect anything. Liars are always very tensed and you can spot a liar by looking for unnatural behaviors which you can easily spot if you look out for them.
ONE-MAN SHOW: If a person is clearly over acting, playing an innocent victim, don’t be too harsh on them, at least they tried. The thing is people’s emotions change quite quickly with one emotion lasting up to 6-10 seconds. If the person is insincere with you, he or she might act surprised for a longer time.
HOSTILITY: Hostility and even insults are clear signs of lies. Don’t let them get you angry and forget what you asked about. Keep the conversation normal and just repeat the question. If the person is innocent, they will calm down and try to answer you. If they are guilty, they start to get to angry again and lose their patience. If the suspect responds to your questions with phrases like ‘why do you want to know that’ then that’s a hit hes trying to gather his answers.
REPEATING THE QUESTION: If the person repeats your question multiple times, then it’s a sign he or she is about to tell a lie. Telling lies takes more time than telling the truth. Also, when a person tells a lie, his or her voice may become higher in pitch.
AVOIDING THE ANSWER: If a person is trying to avoid the answer giving you a lot of irrelevant information or even trying to change the topic, he or she is most likely trying to get a lie out.
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