To open your relationship is to go on a journey in a foreign land you only know little about. It stirs the boat from the safety of the dock to the unknown waters, but oh, what an adventure it can be!
Will you enjoy the trip so much that you will move to that land for good - or will you return to safety, remembering fondly in your experiences from that trip? Will you decide to split paths, each to follow it's own happiness? Depends on your relationship, depends on you two, depends on you. The risk of opening up a monogamous relationship is obviously, losing the relationship all together. Sometimes your life long partner doesn't want to go on that ride, and then what? Sometimes people open up the relationship and find out it doesn't feel or acts like they thought it would and get disappointed, sometimes it brings to an end a relationship that was dying for a long time... so why do people risk their relationship, their happily ever after?
Communication will bring you closer
To make this work, both of you must communicate your feelings and needs clearly without putting blame on each other. Communication doesn't stop in talking- it also means listening- listening and not automatically jumping to defend yourself or blaming the other side. You are here, you love each other, you want to make it work- so you will have to talk about jealousy, insecurities or anything else that clutters your path. This is great to do in any relationship, but this journey makes you focus on communications skills to survive. Naturally, it strengthens the intimacy when you are open with each other.
Jealousy & Envy can spice things up
As much as I enjoy seeing my husband with other women and hearing compliments about him (it's kind of cool to see a live porn film with my type of people), I get a bit jealous at times and... jealousy isn't as bad as we may think. It spices things up. You try harder, you don't take the partner for granted. Also, it really flatters to be on the other side of the jealousy stick and get a lot of attention and appreciation. We reclaim our love after seeing other people and the electricity in the air... better than makeup sex!
Keeping secrets is exciting - together
Let's admit it, it's exciting to keep a secret like this from your extended family or friends- and you two are keeping this secret TOGETHER. It's a fun secret, a sexy secret. Removing boundaries and challenging society's automatic monogamous patterns together can make you feel like a rebel. You walk around knowing you are married but have the freedom to flirt and act on it - yet no one knows but you two.
Staying fit & attractive for partners
As you are still in the dating scene, you can't let yourself go- you keep yourself pretty and charming to attract new people. Though your partner loves you ad attracted to you, regardless of what you wear and how much time you put into getting ready, they would still enjoy seeing you all dressed up and excited- as would you when the tables are turned.
Threesomes, foursomes, orgies - explore sexual pleasure together
You thought these wild sex days are behind you? You never dared to try but now have a partner that will be with you throughout this crazy experience- together you can try anything you want! Not to mention all the new bedroom tricks that you will pick up along the way...