Hi!
I am Ramona Raynolds, explorer of a human mind.
Why am I talking particularly about relationship? Experience. I myself went through all possible kinds of drama except of being in love with a gay man (which might happen in future), also I worked with many people as a therapist and what I found out is that people just come up with lots of bullshit around simple process of procreation.
Well, making simple things complicated is a favorite game of the human kind. Believing in some outer evil force is a favorite excuse for not opening your eyes and seeing the truth. Because we don't want to see the painful truth. The shocking truth. The ugly and stinky truth about ourselves and our intentions.
In fact, there is no evil. There is self-deception and lack of responsibility. It's easier to say "life is unfair to me" rather than acknowledge "I am a selfish irresponsible idiot".
Again: I'm not a relationship consultant who will help you to close your eyes on certain issues and save your marriage relationship or whatever kind of ridiculous game you're into. My advice is not something sweet and comfortable. How uncomfortable is it? Thing of ice bucket challenge just after you wake up. Uncomfortable, but it makes you awake in a second.
It's gonna be a fun journey if you don't mind the crazy driver ;)