Fighting sexism with silence is not a good strategy.
A
gym tale.
That day @Razvanelulmarin was just minding his own business, resting after a hard set. He wants to get swole as f%$^% so he works hard. But let's not get distracted here.
This story is about a redneck.
It's also about speaking up against boorish behavior.
The Redneck appears at the horizon of the cardio zone. He wears a tank top, what Americans call a "wife-beater", that show off his bulk. He is 40lbs too fat and balding but you can be sure by the way he walks around with his chest out he thinks he's hot stuff. He has a constant smirk on his face.
Worth saying that he is 5'5'.
Razvanelul had seen him around, always doing his curls and talking loudly. He's a -regular- at this gym and while they never talked, the guy did help him out once. It made him think that sometimes it's better to do things by yourself than suffer the sight of that disgusted face for 10 seconds.
In a word, the guy is scum.
Now that the stage is set, let's see what happens.
The redneck proceeds to the weights area and right then SHE walks by and jump on a treadmill.
--< what , wait, how , who's she?!! >---
Patience! R [ short for razvanelul ] doesn't know at that point. He doesn't particularly care as he is about to start a new heavy squat set. That's when the Redneck opens his piehole.
"What a piece of ass on that chick, huh?" he says looking at R like they're friends or something.
R is now surprised that the redneck seems to address him as it was a first. He says nothing.
"Oh, just right" he continues and makes the international cupping the butt sign.
SHE
She is a fit girl at the gym. She is dressed, as women do, in legging and t-shirt. She is very defined, looks like someone who does a lot of sport and yes, she is attractive. She also looks like she is there to work out and get the hell out - headset on, focused.
What R should have done:
What R did was staring somewhat weirdly at the guy and snort/chuckle make a weird acknowledging sound.
THAT WAS A MISTAKE!!!
By not saying something he signaled that it was ok. The silence makes accomplies of us all. It was a sad day for R.
R was thinking " This is why women don't feel alright at the gym. That's why we can't have nice things!!" but said nothing.
SHE didn't hear anything but I'm sure she noticed some lewd and inappropriate looks.
The day moved on.
Another chance to fight this kind of behavior lost.
R had a good workout but still went home defeated.
There will be a new opportunity.
You might be Razvanelul yourself one day and if so...
DO SOMETHING!
the end.
If you want to read more gym tales, tell me and I might deliver.
Enjoy :)