When are we really the best version of our selves? Two years ago, I came in contact with this kid who had issues with doing things rightly, neatly or effectively. In short, he lacked the ability to do things properly, I mean he didn't have any shred of excellence.
Often times, he'd sit alone and cry his eyes out, just because of the singular thought that people perceived and saw him one whose life was lacking everything good and perfect. Well, One wonderful day, I passed by the block looking to see a friend who would later introduce me to the same kid that I'd help out with a little problem in life that he was facing.
Passing by the block, I heard someone crying, so I sat around the corner waiting. While I sat around, I took the liberty of talking to the kid, and I asked why he cried so profusely, He said, everyone thinks he lacks almost all that is good, and that he's the worst at anything he lays his hands on. So I started to talk to him, told him a couple of stories, gave him some reference points and gave him instances of some people who sucked at almost everything only to turn out better at the end.
Sometimes our definition of being the best version of ourselves comes from a long-lasting line of us being failures at almost anything. There hasn't been anyone born with the ability to be as perfect as God, but instead, if you would find anyone that seems rather distinct in character, charisma, and self-esteem then it only means that he/she took out the specific desired amount of time to input something much more unique that can or should make them the best version of themselves.
Often times, we look at becoming better as a competition with the guy next door, or that colleague at work, or the guy who owned a blog first, or the one who started a business and is successful, or the lady who got the opportunity to read some books, only to become outstanding.
The truth is, our human defense mechanism has a way of messing with the normal course of life. Our lives revolve around how we process things so I say to you that, You are only the best version of your self when you out do you.
The goal shouldn't be to be better than the next person but to be inspired by the next person so that you could be stimulated to be better because you saw someone who instilled that will to be better. We are only the best version of ourselves if we learn not to leave for our selves but for the benefit of others. The best way to be better is not to think of it as a competition but as a means to utilize the will-power that we already have.
So Start today, take a step away from failure, because the fear of it will kill every bit or shred of becoming better. Keep the fear of success away, understand that success isn't something you should dread, and since it's not what you must fear, then you gotta be welcoming to it.
One last thing that is of high importance, is the part where people talk down on you, or maybe it might be you talking down on you. Well, the thing is In the game of life or the walk of life, you are only as good your mouth, and you are only as perfect as your mind, which means wherever you want your life to go your words matter, they are the driving force, so cancel negativity in the way of words and also cancel negativity in the way of thoughts.
Once all of these is achieved then, and only then can you truly say you've become the best version of yourself. Just Remember, that it's not a one day process, but a lifetime process, because the moment you conquer a level you set for yourself then you've set another so the circle keeps going and for every time you break forth you becoming better. Thank you.