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Yes, your child can go far, but you should try hard for it.
Is your son smart? The possibility that your answer is "yes" is immense. And, possibly, you're right: children and teenagers are usually smart. The bad news, however, is that it does not mean much. But they will benefit very well if they add to the effort, dedication and willingness to learn.
"Learning is a routine, a procedural job."
Therefore, there is no way to be born knowing, and that is where the main role comes in. Believing that everything in our life is already ready and decided by our traits (intelligence or lack of it, motor coordination or lack of it), by fate and by others, it is difficult to learn and grow. If, on the other hand, we feel protagonists of our life, capable of changing and improving more and more, the roads open before us.
So, what can we understand as the protagonist in the lives of children and how to stimulate that non-cognitive capacity or socio-emotional competence in the child?
What is the protagonist?
It is the ability to see yourself as the main agent of life. Who shows leadership is responsible for their attitudes, distinguishes their actions from others and expresses initiative and self-confidence. For school performance, this characteristic is very welcome, since the student "protagonist" believes that he can learn and strives to achieve it. The concept of youth protagonism is related to the role of young citizens and their ability to mobilize socially.
Hard work is worth it ...
"No matter what I do, nothing works" is the anthem of the people who are victims. Well, do not give that example to your child, at the risk that he will spend his life blaming others for his failures. If an object is not reached, we must analyze if the way to achieve it was adequate. Try to show your child that the effort is worth it: tell him about the goals he has achieved in life, tell the success stories of others and propose activities that demonstrate it.
No more "doing well in math and bad in English"
These actions, such as "being good at math" and "not having the talent for sports" do not help at all, and do not reflect reality. We are all capable of developing ourselves wherever we are, as with proper teaching (by caregivers and teachers) and effort (on our part). After all, if we could not learn, what would the school be? Encourage your child to want to challenge himself in all disciplines and discover his interest in all of them, and not only in those that seem easier.
Say, yes to autonomy
Autonomy is closely related to the protagonist since the person who manages to well alone gain self-esteem and independence. And how to stimulate the autonomy of your child? "For the child to become an autonomous subject, he has to learn to take care of himself, to understand himself and only then will he understand others". The formation of autonomy is given by self-knowledge.
How to facilitate this path to your child?
Let him act and experiment. "The first time the two-year-old drinks water alone, it will spill a lot, and in some, it will spill less, until it spills less.
The note given at school is yours, stop your child's complaints and take responsibility for their attitudes. Most of the time, children tend to blame everyone for their grades, unless they accept that it is for themselves.
They even say that their teacher did not explain the class well, or that it was because he explained very quickly.
"The grade is attributed by the school, but it is constructed by the student.
In this way, admitting the error and becoming the protagonist of the situation becomes much easier.
And, belief, that's true, it paralyzes your son's complaints. Parents, in general, have difficulty seeing the real role of the child or adolescent in a conflict. "The tendency is to discover that the son was the victim"
source of information:
- http://www.thepositivemom.com/are-you-the-protagonist-of-your-life-story
- https://www.worldvision.org/blog/protagonist-life-story
- https://www.yourquote.in/akshata-nete-dag1/quotes/you-re-protagonist-your-life-story-every-now-you-antagonist-7k5b/
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://roseri.vornix.blog/2018/09/11/how-to-help-your-child-to-be-protagonist-of-his-life/