How to raise a confident child?

All parents want their children to grow independent and confident. But not everyone can answer the question with precision: how to raise a self-confident child? In this article, we have compiled the most important rules that will help parents cope with this non-trivial task.

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Avoid excessive protection

Young children learn the world around them, mainly through tactile sensations, through the acquisition of their own experience. If each time the child hears "do not touch", "do not approach", "dangerous", this will form in his mind a facility that determines his inferiority and inability to independently know what surrounds him.

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The constant protection of the parents is transmitted to the child. Form in your head a particular worldview, namely, define inaction as the best way to avoid problems.

Do not compare

Get rid of your son or daughter's comparisons with their peers or with yourself. Phrases like "my neighbor's son has already learned the multiplication table" will definitely not add points to the confidence table. Rather, the edge of distrust will be placed among you, which will be quite difficult to overcome.

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Such comparisons originate in the child's head the fear of being worse than others. This configuration will pursue him throughout his life. A child, constantly looking at others, will reinforce in his head the idea that there are always those who have more talent and success.

Give support

Every person needs support, and especially a child. Support your son in his efforts. Do not forget that the approval and recognition of your parents are extremely important. It is you who is your first listener, reader and spectator.

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There is no shame in encouraging a son or daughter before important stages of life: the first lesson, the first exam ... Your love, which you put in your personality, will become stronger and become a psychological shield, for which no problem will be terrible.

Be an example

Each father is a hero for his children. When looking at it, the child unconsciously adopts his manners, reactions and behaviors. A father should not be afraid to share knowledge, his own personal achievements, accept in response the emotions and feelings associated with the child's victories. Your inner energy, the desire to achieve more, the confidence in yourself will go to your child.

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Remember yourself as a child, did not you really find shelter in the house, where they always await the tender embrace of the mother and the father's harsh approval? And if a father was deprived of this in the years of his youth, only he has the opportunity to offer this warmth and comfort to his son or daughter.

Not criticize

There is nothing worse for a child's self-esteem than criticism. Of course, the ability to calmly perceive criticisms, analyze them and then work on their mistakes is a very important skill that is not available to everyone. However, you should not criticize your son for nothing. Make sure your words do not hurt, but if you cultivate a fruitful soil for personal growth.

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Tell your daughter or son that an error is not a tragedy, but an opportunity for self-improvement. Each defect and space is at the same time an experience that in some way helps us move towards our intended goal. It is necessary to discuss the errors together, as this will help to better understand their causes and prevent them from occurring in the future.

The education process does not happen instantaneously, and its results are not always obvious, so try not to be cunning in front of you and, assuming responsibility for the formation of your son or daughter's moral values ​​system, do not back down , even if you do not see the result.

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Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://roseri.vornix.blog/2019/05/19/how-to-raise-a-confident-child/

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