Love is sure a sensitive topic that everyone gets excited about. Would not like to bore you so much today, but stick with me and learn the little you can from my #gratitudeday post today.
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Just sat to reminisce on the many things GOD has done for me and the thought of how i survived a broken relationship in the year 2011 came to mind. Indeed i am grateful for pulling through that moment, perhaps i would not have had the opportunity of enjoying my present life in marriage.
It happened that i dated this pretty lady while i was serving. We did attended same University, but we never knew each other until service year. We were so close and loving that people around us already were waiting to see us really get married and live our lives happily. While we dated, we had gone so close that we did'nt discuss some sensitive issues that needed settling. so when it became necessary, we started talking about such issues.
She happened to be from the Northern part of Nigeria, and i was not. She was scared her parents would not accept me. But i was so sure there is no storm that Love cannot penetrate. so i told her to make up her mind and let me know her decision, because i don't want to go further without being sure. Whatever i put my heart to, i direct all my focus on it. to cut the story short, she wasn't fast about making her decision, so i told her we should just end it and go our separate ways. She so cried out her life and fell ill. So i said , we should continue with the relationship but as soon as we are done with service i will visit her parents and begin to familiarize myself bit by bit. She agreed but after we finished serving, and we departed to our different locations,we kept in touch for and while and she suddenly stopped calling, i fell ill in the period and she cared less, that's when i suspected something was wrong.
I called and asked what the problem was, in short i had to pester her till she told me that she is not interested anymore in the relationship but does'nt know how to tell. I was broken and confused, i travelled to Abuja, Nigeria to see her,but it did'nt change anything, my elder sister felt for me, lost appetite, my parents got worried. But thank God for a friend of mine who made me snap out of that season. he told me some plain truth that was hard to hear. I asked the lady for 10months what i did wrong, but could not give any answer.
I am more grateful that on the day i would have committed suicide, God snapped me out of it when i heard that voice so clear in my spirit, that; "if you kill yourself, you are going to HELL". LOL ofcause HELL is not an option i want to go for. So i had to get my mind occupied more with church activities, and shared my pain with those i know could help me through it and that was how i survived.
Gratitude
- I am grateful for that terrible experience,because i have helped alot of people go through their trying times also.
- I am grateful that i am not only married but happy with the woman in my life.
- I am grateful for the people in my life that has helped shaped me to what i am today.
Lessons to be learnt;
- When in a relationship, ensure you bring up settle sensitive issues that may cause friction.
- Learn to seek advice from the right people.
- Never make a permanent decision on a temporary situation(liking trying to commit suicide) lol.
- It must not be that you first relationship will end in marriage.
Grateful for LOVe!
What is Gratitude Day
Every day is gratitude day.
Gratitudeday is all about being thankful for the things that are happening in your life. A lot of us go through life taking things for granted. The goal is to challenge you to make a blog post about something you are grateful for. It could be big or small. It doesn't matter. Little things matter. I'll be doing this for 62 days (62 is not a random number). It's not an endurance game, you can join in anytime you want and opt out anytime you want.
How to Participate in #GratitudeDay Challenge
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