Hey Steemians!
"Hey Sasha, how do I be more funny?"
It think it's one of the questions I got the most when I started putting up videos of my flirting with women, back in the day.
Guys just assumed that, I'm getting girls because I'm FUNNY
Therefore, if THEY were funnier, they would get more girls. Right????
Yes and no.
Being funny worked for me because I just AM funny. It's my natural state to be playful and joking around. It's who I am.
WHAT THIS BEHAVIOUR SHOWED WOMEN was..... I was confident enough to "be myself".
Most guys GET funny thoughts or ideas, but they suppress them because they worry about how it would come off. What if I'm not funny? What If I come off as a loser? I better not say anything!
So you don't. You come of as boring and/or you radiate a weird energy because.... (you guessed it!) You're not really being "you".
But if you "try" and be funnier you'll come off as fake...
You see? That's the trap.
You can't FAKE it or "try" be funnier - you need to become wiser, and more loving - so you can see the funny in life. It becomes you.
In the end, women fall in love with who you ARE... Not what you are (trying) to be.
YA FEEL ME, GANGSTER?
So even if you make a joke that YOU think is funny (and she doesn't) ... The fact that you're ok doing it.... (and the fact you're not worried about her reaction) is what makes you a cool guy.
There's also a difference between (a big difference) between pretending to be ok with yourself, and being ok with yourself.
That's a long, lifelong process that I'm still working through. I think that's the main teaching of the entire Infinite Man Academy .... Even though we say it's about getting your health/wealth/relationships/purpose all in line..... That just means accepting and loving yourself fully. If you did THAT, everything else WOULD fall into place.
But I digress... We were talking about humor!
What people don't realize is that humor IS really important - but not because it can get you laid. It's important because it can be a tool to lighten things up when they get serious. To break tension. The ability to keep things light (AKA seeing the funny in situations) is one of the tools that has massively increased my happiness in life. It's why I've gotten as far as I have - because I make people feel good around me, see?
And that helps me feel good about myself.
I have an exciting announcement coming up (about comedy!) I'll email you about in the next couple of days......
Meanwhile..... I've said the easiest way to acquire the comedic mindset is to just WATCH funny people be funny. Seriously.... go listen to some Bill hicks, or Richard Pyor, or George Carlin. Woke + Funny - You can't go wrong.
Go watch GROUNDHOG DAY.... Wow. You can learn how to be deadpan just by studying Bill Murray in that movie.
Anyways SPEAKING of comedy: I did a Woke.AS podcast with a funny guy who's internet famous! J.P Sears! It was great fun..... and in this clip I just uploaded we talk about yet another reason we both believe humor is.... just about one of the most important things in the world.
Here's the clip:
And if you liked THAT one, I put another one on my second channel too, over here:
Enjoy ;)
See you in the next post!
For now..... Go and sit for 10 minutes and think about WHY you deserve to to be truly loved..... by yourself ;)