It is true that you get to learn a lot when observing other people and their behavior but I’ve found that you get to learn even more by observing and paying attention to your own behavior without any prejudice at all.

I realized this when I was studying the behavior of random people in public spaces and how they tend to act when they are with friends and when they are in the company of strangers. I used to ask myself, “Do I do the same things?”

One of the times I did this was when I noticed how so many people are like eggs today, meaning, softer on the inside and hard on the outside. I realized that I was the same way and I began looking for reasons why.

While this doesn’t apply to everybody, of course, because we are all different and we simply can’t generalize things like that but still I have seen that this applies to many, especially in the internet infused world of today.

People Are Quick To Judge These Days

Each individual is a part of the society and while there are rules that are written that we all follow, there are many that are unwritten and we still follow them. So far so good. The problem arises when some particular rules are perceived to exist while in reality, they have absolutely no sense at all.

We behave differently in different places and situations and with different people, just because we “think” that we are supposed to be doing that. If we don’t do so, we feel like we might get judged by other people.

Even our clothing and other aspects of lifestyle are largely affected by such a notion. That is why we have created this outer tough shell to shield ourselves from the judgmental eyes of the society.

That is why we only allow people to experience the softness in us after we get to know them better ourselves. Isn’t there a difference between how you talk to a stranger and a friend? You have absolutely no care about what a friend will think or say. It’s basically about comfort.

Everyone Is The Same Inside

While some may look more successful than others or even more intimidating than others at first sight, inside we are all the same human beings made of flesh and bones.

Everyone has good and bad times in lives and everyone comes with their own baggage. That guy who looks arrogant and tough and cold from the outside, is probably very depressed inside and just wants someone to see past through that tough exterior.

Everyone has their own story which includes times of invincibility and times of vulnerability and thanks to the modern society, we tend to exaggerate the times of invincibility and completely hide the broken part of ourselves.

This situation is only worsened when we know people only on the internet and don’t meet at all or that often in real life. We create this “image” of other people that doesn’t match the real personality of the person at all and we get a shock when we get to meet them in person where we finally get a glimpse of that soft inner core.

So, yeah! Shed that outer hard shell and overcome that fear of judgement. You will be a lot more free and people will appreciate you more for showing them your true inner self, leading to stronger, more meaningful relationships.