In this article you will learn:
Psychogenic infertility
The main causes of psychogenic infertility
Smart people disease.
Today's planning of children is a common practice. Young people are preparing for a new stage in their lives with full responsibility. They undergo the necessary medical examination, lead a healthy lifestyle, drink vitamins. But it so happens that the long-awaited child is in no hurry. Months, years fly by and the situation does not change. Life turns into a waiting room.
Faced with the problem of conception, a woman and a man begin to feel inferior, vulnerable, often blame each other for failures, for their insufficient desire to have a baby. The dream of becoming parents can turn into an obsession and spoil even the warmest relationship between spouses.
Women begin to go to fortune-tellers, to shamans, go headlong into religion, unconventional methods of treatment, and also try to control the conception process in every way with the help of ovulation tests and proximity only on “suitable” days.
Men tend to lock themselves up, devote themselves entirely to work, hobbies and pretend that the problem does not concern them.
Disagreement begins in the family. Sexual life turns into hard work, leaving tenderness and affection. Due to the inability to talk about painful things, people are slowly moving away from each other and trying to survive their pain alone. It turns out a vicious circle. It seems that happiness will return to the family with only the long-awaited two stripes.
Psychogenic infertility
Why are absolutely healthy people faced with the problem of conception?
Unfortunately, every year the number of couples suffering from infertility increases. Doctors call infertile couples of reproductive age who, with regular sexual activity for 1.5 years, cannot become pregnant. A series of tests, expensive treatment, and even attempts at artificial insemination may not produce results. It happens that doctors, excluding medical reasons, talk about psychogenic infertility and recommend seeking help from a psychologist who specializes in solving problems of this kind.
Psychologists attribute infertility to a psychosomatic illness. The fact is that the reproductive system in 99% depends on the psyche. Infertility is the only psychosomatic disease that does not harm the body. Without reproductive function, our body is viable. In fact, with such a diagnosis, a person can live a happy life. The disease in this case acts as a protective mechanism.
The psyche and body work as a whole. The brain sends a signal to the body: “I do not want”, “not ready”, “not time”, “not with him / her”, “dangerous” and the body blocks the reproductive system.
The main causes of psychogenic infertility
Of course, the reasons why psychogenic infertility appears in the life of a particular couple are always unique.
But still, some of them can be distinguished:
Stress. With constant anxiety, a large amount of the hormone cortisol is produced, which significantly reduces the chances of becoming pregnant.
Negative attitudes. Perhaps Mom or Dad recalled parenthood as an “overwhelming burden”, “hard work” and “limitation of opportunities”. This idea could firmly take root in the head and turn into an installation that “protects” its owner.
Fears. Sources of fears can be both from childhood and acquired throughout life. For example, nulliparous women are undesirable to attend childbirth; this can cause great fear.
Negative experiences from childhood. Unwanted resentment against their own parents and childhood injuries can cause psychogenic infertility. The birth of a child always exposes our spiritual wounds, and a person unconsciously strives to avoid this.
Relationship with a partner. Frequent conflicts with a spouse can only be the tip of the iceberg, which hides distrust, insecurity in a partner, and dissatisfaction with family life.
Smart people disease
It is also worth noting that psychogenic infertility is a disease of smart people. This problem is faced by people who seek to control and plan their life and the life around them. Such a person seeks to solve the problem at all costs, and pregnancy here acts as an end in itself. As a way to prove that "I can." Excessive control always causes stress.
Try to squeeze the pen in your hand and write "I want a baby." How did it happen? The same is with conception: when we are tense, we send the signal “dangerous!” To the brain, and the brain sends a signal to the reproductive system “now is not the best time to continue procreation, the body will not be able to endure, give birth and feed”.
Therefore, the best solution is to understand your own internal contradictions and doubts, temporarily stop planning your pregnancy and focus on what brings true pleasure. The task is to relax and give a signal to your body that you are safe and ready to become a parent. Very often, such simple at first glance tips give a result, and the long-awaited child appears in the family.