THE SEVEN MAGNETIC FORMULA FOR MEN
Any married man who desire to constantly command the respect of his wife, enjoy her commitment, support and unfailing love, must learn to do the following:
BE TRANSPARENTLY GODLY: It is a known fact that most women have deep rooted respect for godly men and ministers of God. This is why you hear ladies praying to God to give them God-fearing man as husband. Any woman will naturally submit to a transparently godly husband, whether he has a religious title or not. This explains why you see some women carry out the instructions of their pastors to the letter, while flagrantly disobeying and disrespecting their husband with reckless abandon! If you want your wife to respect you, submit to you, love you, trust you and you earning the credibility to remote-control her wherever you are, you need to be transparently godly. ALWAYS PRAY FOR YOUR OWN WIFE. The ungodliness (like cheating, alcoholism, lying, and all forms of irresponsibility) in the life of some men are the foundational cause of the problems in their marriages.
APPRECIATE HER LOUDLY AND PASSIONATELY: By the way women are wired with their psychological chemistry, all women are naturally moved and inspired by what they hear (unlike men that are moved by what they see). It therefore follows that you must learn how to appreciate her loudly and passionately, without pretense, on regularly basis. All women (just like men) love to be appreciated. Women like to be told the following:
- My honey, you are beautifully and wonderfully made!
- My darling, I like your hair style, I like your dressing, I like your size, I like your make-up,
- My sweetie, I don’t like eating outside, just because I like your food, your food are always delicious (even when, sometimes, it is obvious that the food is salty or over-saturated with pepper)…lol.
- My one and only wife, you’re the only sugar in my tea,
- My own first lady, any other first lady is a counterfeit. You are the egg in my egg rolls, without you I would have been a puff-puff!
No woman will hear all the above mention compliment on regular basis, and will not be happy with her husband. Don’t frown your face every day, and shout out orders to your wife as if you are a colonial master!
Appreciating a woman before marriage is a matter of inclination, but appreciating her after you marry her is a matter of necessity and personal safety. Matrimony is not a place for carelessness, it is a field for diplomacy.
BE A CONSISTENT GIVER: No woman loves a stingy husband. Learn to give MONEY to your wife without her asking you. All women are fashion conscious, they all love to wear good clothes, latest shoes, bags etc. This explains why some ungodly women will cheat on their husband so as to get money to buy these things. As much as you can afford, buy her unsolicited gifts. SURPRISE her with gifts on her Birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Wedding Anniversary Dates etc. In addition, you must also give to her parents and family members. Women take a lot of joy and pride in their husband giving money and gifts to their family. After you have given her money for food, also give her “pocket money”. The Bible says” the liberal soul shall be made fat. He that waters shall also be watered”. If you do these regularly she will respond with unbelievable deeply rooted love, respect, and commitment. You will surely enjoy her services both in the kitchen and in the “other room”. If you call her once, she will answer you three times!
SLEEP WITH HER REGULARY: Researches have shown that most women will not ask their husband for sex, but will expect their husband to read their body language when they need it. It is therefore behooving on you as the husband to be able to detect when your wife desire sex. You need to under study her to be able to accurately predict when she needs your attention in the bedroom. One of the advice I always give to young couples is that “your first assignment after marriage is to under study your spouse; to pinpoint his/her likes and dislikes, body languages, non-verbal communication, hobbies etc. If you want to command the respect of your wife, you must sleep with her regularly (except during fasting and prayer period, which must be mutually agreed). If you fail in this aspect, the woman will hate you, especially if she did not want to cheat on you. Inadequate sex or outright sex denial has destroyed some marriages. It will not destroy your own marriage in Jesus name, amen.
DON’T CRITICISE HER OPENLY: In other to command the love, respect and commitment of your wife, you must learn to control your anger and ensure you do not criticize your wife openly. Criticize her only in your bedroom, when your children are not around both of you. Open criticism from husband pains women a lot. Many romantic marriages had broken up on the rock, because of futile, needless and heartbreaking criticism. It will not break your own marriage in Jesus name, amen.
DON’T BE JEALOUS OF HER SUCCESS: If your wife is making more money than you, either in her job or business, don’t be jealous of her. Some men do this openly that the wife felt threatened and unsafe! Rather, you should praise her to her face, tell her you are proud of her, tell her you are praying for her to go higher in career, business or ministries! If you do this, she will automatically submit to you, respect you, and make you her treasurer. A wise man will always gain control over her wife. The Bible says “Wisdom is the principal thing (not the vice principal), therefore get wisdom, with all thy getting, get understanding”. “Wisdom is profitable to direct”.
BEFRIEND YOUR WIFE: As a man, your wife must be your best friend, who knows all your secrets and location of all your movable and immovable assets. Let her be sure she is your best friend or the only friend you have. Have intimate discussion everyday. Send her romantic text messages when you are not at home. Take her out to her places of interest, like taking her out to have dinner, watch movie, attend social functions together, and travel together on holidays. Why must it be only you that travels abroad every year for holiday? Why can’t your wife accompany you to travel for holiday or to attend social functions together? Husband, please what are you hiding? If you truly befriend your wife, you will earn her genuine love, respect, and commitment to your success in life, business and ministries.
Success in marriage is much more than a matter of finding the right person, it is also a matter of making yourself the right person.
I hope I have been able to help you with these Seven Magnetic Formula for Men that will bring the desired new wine and turn around into your marriage. I pray the Lord grant you happiness, joy, peace, fruitfulness and fulfilment in your marriage in Jesus name, amen.
Your Anointed Marriage Counsellor,
Pastor Sunday Adeleke.