Make SURE that you are ready to love, that you've already moved on from your past so you won't hurt the one you'll love next. Or make SURE that you really fell in love/you felt is true love, not just lust for the next one so you won't hurt the innocent one who truly cares and loved you back sincerely. Don't take her for granted as always. Accept her for who she was and who she is now. You've noticed a lot of changes to her? Oh well, don't be surprised coz she's battling something in your relationship that you're not aware of because you're too focused on something, not to her, not to your relationship but to whatever that hurt her - your happiness that she doesn't exist at all. The wound gets deeper and deeper that she can't even bear to distinguish if it's a normal pain or she can't feel anymore, is she normal, if what she does matters or right or wrong and worse is, she is getting into a different world that she doesn't know. It's scary but I know a strong woman can handle such so nothing to worry. Sometimes she needs to be lost to know herself better and what she's capable of.
The day you've decided to be her boyfriend, make it the day that you're the one for her and make her hallucination real. Seriously, you as a man of her life should've given your commitment from the start of the relationship. Being spontaneous and consistent of showing her that you didn't regret your decision to be with this innocent, twisted, lunatic, crazy like hell girl, then maybe you'll have a better understanding where you've gone so far in your relationship. You could have a better understanding of what's going on between you and your out of this world girl. Otherwise, if you have allergies to commitment, honesty, understanding, respect, lunatic girl and all the sweet nothings in a relationship, then better be single. Being single is freedom to be who you are and who you want to be. You can't hear a loudmouth just like your mom that wants you to become a better person, mature or work on your relationship that doesn't exist at all. You don't have to worry making effort or build a strong connection with your lunatic girl or to please her or whatever craziness she needs or wants. If your plans are for your own goodness sake then set your girl free. Don't be foolish to fool that is just acting like one for good reason/intention. You can also hear your complains and what you hated the most if you listen to your own voice first, look back, track what had happened, what have you done to her that she became what you didn't expect her to be. Don't ever blame her because what she just did was to love you and gave all of her to you that she even made sacrifices that you are not aware of. It came to a point that she almost completely lost herself for you. She is fighting alone to save the relationship. What does she get from all she went through in your relationship? Lost of respect, blamed for everything, all she does don't matter. She keeps on thinking, wondering, asking questions to herself what, where, why, how.
Be the man who stands beside her, not in front or back of her. Protect your girl especially from yourself and others. You might be wondering, it should be protecting her from others, not from himself, right? The reason is simple. Men sometimes are not aware that they're already hurting her silently, unaware because he is blinded by his so-called LOVE. Sometimes a man doesn't know how to show their love. Ask them to define love, they tell you in the speed of light that love is infinite. Awesome! Yes, it is true but ask them how to show love to their girl, well, they have different ways however sometimes they are focused on how they will show love without consideration on how the girl perceive love. We have the different woman in this world, unique, upbringing is not the same, social status, and experiences. So a man should know how to show love base on these differences. A man should avoid assuming that girl/woman is not contented with the love you guys are showing to them.Be sensitive and feel her. Giving a rich girl with the grandest bouquet of flowers sure will make her happy? nor a poor girl? Maybe they both appreciate the effort but is that really what they want? Again, think of the differences. Each may just want your time, giving her importance, you are committed to her, respect her, etc. matters most than material things. Respect the differences. I remember the one quote says "In every relationship to work, it depends on a woman" I totally disagree. It should be both. Not the woman who will take all the burden, understand and whatsoever, it should be BOTH. Equality makes a big difference in a relationship.
Don't compete with your girl. Disregard your EGO and PRIDE, these two attitudes will break both of you and your relationship into pieces without noticing it. Who is right? Who is wrong? Does it really matter, who's right or wrong? To have a better judgment, don't judge instead lower your level and accept what had gone wrong. This goes to both partners. Understanding and realizing where you went wrong does matter. Together, each must be keen on the situation they're dealing with and should have a better understanding of the root cause of the chaos. Now, if both of you already accept and know the root cause then go to the next step. Apologizing to each other what had gone wrong, of the said words, actions that were made unintentionally because of anger. Avoid blaming each other instead of talk over it in a calm way with an open mind, in the right place, and at the right time. Saying your sorry from the heart that you really mean it is a sign that you've accepted what you did and you will not be going to let it happen moving forward. If only these simple ways observed and practiced, maybe just maybe there will be forever? Usually, couples who made it to forever have discipline, respect, embracing the differences by learning to each other, and helping each to grow not blaming because of selfishness.
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