Greetings to all, in this beautiful Ladies of Hive Community. Heeding the call of this contest number 170, today I return to participate. Here I share this week's invitation.
- Understand that there are things that you cannot change: This is very important, because there are people and events that are immutable, that you will not be able to change, even if you desperately want to. For example, a death, or a person being obtuse and not understanding reasons, or a person betraying you, who you later discover has no values or principles; that does not depend on you, that is there and you cannot change it; all that remains is to let go of that.
- To think that everything passes, nothing is immutable or eternal: Of course, this is something that must be dosed wisely, since with this I do not mean that we are going to remain neutral, waiting for everything to pass. Otherwise, we must act, but if we see that we are making an effort to resolve something, avoid losing control and know that everything will pass.
Wash my face, arms and hands, and if I can do it, take a bath: I believe in the purifying and cleaning power of water, so if I feel like I'm losing control, and it's within my reach to do this, I go and take a bath or wash, visualizing that all that bad energy leaves my body.
Have a coffee, a tea, a juice, any drink that seems delicious to me, and if possible, accompany it with a snack: Like food and drink for me means love and comfort, and also I perceive food as something sacred, so if I can pause in a stressful and difficult situation, I do that, eat and drink something tasty, trying to enjoy and savor every bite and every sip, this has a calming effect on me.
- Try to connect with the other's feelings: If I am at the precise moment when I can lose control when arguing with someone else, I try to think about how they feel, what they think, what they aspire to, what they believe. This is hard, really hard and I don't always succeed, but it helps. This is what is known as practicing otherness, which in simpler words is: “Putting yourself in someone else's shoes.”
- Focus my attention on other things: This is like taking a break. Sometimes that pause lasts for days, but it is really better to wait, to make time, for the emotions to settle and to be able to have a more objective view of the situation.
Here I end my post, where I have shared some of the practices that I apply to maintain control. I hope some of you find these tips useful.
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