We live in a world where so many negative things are happening constantly, that it's easy for us to feel suffocated by that. But we can change that!
So today, we will talk about spreading joy and positive energy everywhere we go, as well as letting go of bad things from the past that are still bothering you, and rather focus on your positive future!
When you approach a situation, or enter a room, do it with the intention that you want to make this a better place. Bring the Joy everywhere you go!
Most people just accept that there is a certain atmosphere in their surrounding. But why not try to change that? Why not try to bring your own positive attitude, positive energy, and influence the atmosphere?
What if we ALL started to leave places with a better energy than they were before?
We are surrounded by negativity so much - horror stories in the news, so many people being angry, complaining, or being offended easily.
We can only counter that by bringing our own positivity.
You don't "have" joy, anger or fear. You construct it yourself. You are in control!
You have to make that decision for yourself - am I going to let emotions control my life, or do I want to be in control over them?
So how do you generate positive energy yourself?
- Humor!
Before meeting your friends, think of something funny that happened to you recently. When they are all complaining and talking negatively, tell them about your funny story, and it's likely that someone else will then share their experience of something funny happening as well! That way, you have just lifted up the energy of your conversation. - Trigger happiness.
Let's say you are at a family gathering, and your aunt is constantly complaining and spreading negative energy. Now you could either join in on that, or change the tone and direction of the conversation.
You could say something like "I know it's been quite tough, but let's talk about the positives. Is there anything amazing that happened recently, that warmed your heart?" or "what are you most grateful for?" or "what could you be happy about right now?"
Change the atmosphere, change the topic of the conversation, change it to positive energy!
If you walk into a group of people, make it your own choice to say "I will lift up the energy in here". - Be helpful.
Whenever someone is complaining, try to help them as much as you possibly can. This may sound obvious, but often we just listen to someone else's complaints, and say the next best thing that comes to your mind. But try to really think about the situation, what are the different options that you have, how would it be possible for you to help that person?
After you have helped or given advice, it is easier to trigger happiness or humor to lift up the atmosphere. - Honor people.
The person that's complaining often doesn't feel appreciated, seen or heard. So say thank you to them, give them a compliment (but it has to be genuine). People need to feel validated.
And this is not only to friends and family that complain to us, this can also be true for a total stranger. Why don't you just randomly give the cashier at the grocery store a big smile? Why don't you tell the employee at the post office a compliment?
Spread positive energy everywhere you go, and leave people happy!
So, now what if you don't feel ready to spread positive energy yet, because you can't let go of hardship or a difficult challenge, a disappointment, a bad incident?
Many people are unable to let go of negative events of the past, because they are so concerned with what happened. They wonder about who to blame, how you could've acted differently, or how someone else behaved - rather than focus on the future and commit to doing things differently.
You have to switch your attitude!
So what to do if something that happened in the past is still bringing you down?
- Deal with the situation! Instead of asking yourself who's to blame, ask yourself "What did I learn from this situation?" Get something positive out of it - a lesson for yourself.
- Stand up for yourself in the future. Often, we didn't set our boundaries high enough, and we get hurt because we didn't protect ourselves properly.
- Take note of what others have done wrong, how they treated you, and make it a point for you not to treat someone else like that.
- Look at the bigger picture! Let's say you lost your job a few months ago and are still feeling down about that. Your job is just a small area of your life. Focus on all the other things! Meet new people, improve your health, start a new hobby or pick up an old one again - life is so versatile and often we tend to be stuck in our own sadness because we focus too much on one small, negative part of our lives.
And once you have dealt with all of this, your perception switches and now you think: "Okay, what's next in the future? " Focus on your future rather than the past. Make goals. Make plans.
And you will notice that the more you are focusing on the future, the more you are automatically forgetting the past.
You have been upset about this issue long enough, you have been mad at yourself long enough, now it's time to stop holding on to it. Maybe today is the day you should start making that switch.
You are sprinting towards your future goals, so let go of that heavy baggage!
© Sirwinchester