Hello great steemians! Today i will be looking at an interesting topic that affects both men and women in Nigeria.
There is this popular saying by men in this part of the world that women like money. As a guy, if you have dated one or two ladies before, you will understand what they mean by the statement. This statement can be charged with fallacy of hasty generalization. The women can ask: how many women have you dated? How many asked you for money in the past? Can you confirm that you have dated at least 50% of these women to come up with this statement? Is your statement purely based on what other guys told you?
The women can go on and on to try rescue themselves from this 'statement'. Some of them can even stand up and shout: I am independent! Nobody is arguing that with you but are other ladies independent too? How many ladies can you vouch for to be independent like 'you'?
I grew up in a street where full house wife or what they now systematically call 'stay at home mom' was a normal thing. These women sleep, wake, eat, sleep, wake and eat. The only thing they do well is gossip. Their husbands often meet one or two issues at home every day. Common money for matches is provided by their husbands. The wrong thing to do as a guy in this part of the world is to marry a full house wife!
I have actually dated a lady who told me categorically that she cannot be waking up 6am to go to work as a single lady and still do the same when she's is married. Then i asked, what would you be doing? She said just to enjoy life and that the man must go out to do that. To marry such means you are in for a struggle and your chances of growing is very minimal.
On the issue of money, love does not count in this discussion. A partial truth is no matter how much a lady loves you, if you don't have money or cater for her need, she will leave. If she can't leave, chances are that she will cheat.
Some of them even turn you to their dad immediately they say yes to you. I have actually heard some women say: don't ask a lady out if you cannot give her money to take care of herself! Logically, they assume they become your burden immediately they say yes to you and it is your responsibility to make sure they eat and look good.
Some of them even equate care with buying things! Some of these ladies believe that you need to take them out, buy them things before they can actually know you love them. Ask many of these ladies to define care. Hardly will you not find 'take me out, buy me things' from it. The moment you don't take them out, the moment they start looking for who to compare you with.
Sometimes i wonder when they will start differentiating pure dating from marriage. A married man is responsible for his home including his wife but your dad is responsible for you as a single lady!
It is even possible for them to argue that if you think my dad is responsible for my upkeep, then you don't need to date me or any lady! Little do they know they have logically informed you that to date them means they become your property and you must make sure they enjoy.
When will caring start being about your well being as an individual? When will caring start being about your life, your growth, dreams, future aspirations and many more? When will being caring stop been about buying you food, ice cream yogurt or make up packs?
It is hard to say but many ladies out there only care about your pocket. If you ask them, what do you want in a guy, they will start listing some funny things that will make them look 'responsible' but in actual fact, your pocket is the most relevant thing. Your look and physique are just plus to the main thing - money!
You can criticize the above as a lady but be true to yourself! Guys, share your experiences on the topic.
